“Nothing comes Easy in Life ” “You have to work hard to create and sustain Relationships” “Life is never Easy” Do these phrase sound familiar?? This is how we have been programmed since childhood that life is meant to be a struggle and we should be prepared always. if you have ever been in Love you will understand when we are in a Relationship that is easy time flies by beautifully where as when we are struggling it feels we have been there for ages.
This is the beauty of EASE ; a fulfilling life is when we can live a life with Ease because it is then we are actually living.If I had to describe A Fulfilling Life” in one word? it would be “EASY” , yes anything and everything that is easy to sustain over time will always last longer. The ease with which you can start a conversation, the ease with which you can just be your natural self , the ease with which you can love people this Ease is what makes it click. 🙂
Let us answer this one questions: Why is it that we are sometimes nicer to strangers than we are to loved ones?
Shouldn’t marriage and relationships lighten our load, not add to our burden? Because if it were the latter, why in the world would any of us sign up for something like this?
Perhaps the problem is that many times we get troubled by a lot of the unnecessary parts of relationships and lose focus on the essentials. In a consistent effort of making things work , we try to go out of our ways to do things we do not like just to make things work and the result is ? It actually does not work out in the long run.
Being happy is being at EASE, you just have to find what/who makes you at Ease 🙂
Gratitude 🙂 Sargam
In a quest for preparing for future we are unconsciously postponing happiness every moment..How many of us keep telling the following everyday;
I will go on a vacation once I have enough money with me, I will help people once I have enough money, I will buy something for my loved ones once I have enough money, I will smile the day I will feel complete, I will enjoy the day I am well settled in life and a dozen such ‘if’ and ‘when’ statements we use daily blocking the energy by putting up a condition.
We are constantly preparing for the future rather than enjoying the present, what we are really doing is postponing happiness. This is poor logic that we are basing our lives upon. We prepare for the future because we think that doing so will lead to happiness, but in doing so, we deprive ourselves of happiness all together. We are dangling it like a carrot in front of our own noses, which we will never reach. Just ask yourself right here and now “do I really want to postpone happiness?” and act according to the answer you receive.”
Our emotional selves are like children that never ever grow up no matter how ascended(evolved) we are. We all just have to learn to parent ourselves in a way that we have never been parented. It is as simple like this..when a kid gets angry we do not condemn him instead we embrace them this is what we need to do to ourselves when we are angry/miserable.
Anger is just like a red flag that there are unresolved issues that need to be addressed with love and approval within ourselves. This emotion has to be treated by YOU just like a kid who has no one in the room except YOU to help out.
Society has conditioned us in a way that if something is going wrong we should either hide it or push ourselves harder to overcome it but this is worse to go somewhere. How hard can you try with people/situations/relationships where you do not have control? You don’t have to try hard to please them and make it work instead you have to just love and approve for all the fear that you have within.
So try to be a better parent for that emotional kid you have within ..it needs you more than anyone and no one except you can embrace it. No body in the world can love it the way you can. Here is a simple technique by Thich Naht Hahn
It’s extremely simple and can be done anytime, anywhere and in virtually any circumstance.
Seven simple steps to embrace your emotional self:
- Whenever you become aware of your negative thoughts and emotions, instead of ignoring them, or disapproving them, identify, acknowledge and honor them.
- Become very clear on what is upsetting you. Identify the exact thoughts that are creating the negative emotion. Are they self-judging, bad memories, or anxiety about future events? Aee these causing any dis-ease in the body? Is it insecurity or a fear of the unknown?
- Next, identify the specific emotions that arise in you as a result of these negative thoughts. What do they feel like? Is there tightening in your chest? Is your stomach being hurt or is there a throbbing sensation in your head? Try listen to your body.
- Once you’ve clearly identified the thought(s) and emotion(s), close your eyes and explore the imagery they subsequently create in your mind (once you’re familiar with the practice, you won’t always need to close your eyes—i.e., if you’re driving, or in public you can still do this.) Do the thoughts and emotions create colors, shapes, figures? Are they abstract or clear? The important thing is to let your thoughts and emotions create the imagery while you simply become aware of what they are.
- Breathe. We’re at the half way mark and I’d like to offer you sincere congratulations on completing the first half! Our natural tendency is to suppress these uncomfortable thoughts and emotions, often telling ourselves that we will deal with them later but honestly, that later never comes. Unfortunately for most of us, it never does. So even just by taking the time to become conscious of, and identify these unpleasant thoughts and emotions is a huge step! Let’s not stop there however, because here’s where the really good stuff starts to happen.
- This step is where everything begins to change! Once you have the mental images of what your thoughts and emotions look like (and even if there’s no image at all, this practice still works), picture yourself holding the image (or lack thereof) in the same way a mother holds a newborn baby. Picture the image of your painful thought and emotion wrapped in a warm blanket, being held with very loving care closely to your heart, your chest, as you extend it very sincere compassion from your heart center. (You can also use the imagery of wrapping the thought/emotion in a warm blanket and placing it in a baby carriage, and rocking the carriage back and forth.)
- Next, mentally (or verbally) say to the image that you know it’s there and you promise to care for and hold it with compassion until it’s ready to go. Do your best to say these words from a very sincere place in your heart.
Through bringing our attention to the image of our painful thoughts and emotions, and tending to it with an open heart, we’re doing the most natural thing we can—expressing love. Instead of ostracize our uncomfortable thoughts and emotions accept and embrace them with love.
The thoughts and emotions will often subside very quickly. Sometimes, however, they aren’t ready to go so fast, and that’s fine. When we initially tell them we’d be with them as long as they need us, we were sincere in that intention. So when the thoughts and emotions bother us, we honor and hold them dearly in our heart for as long as it takes.