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Understanding Your Excess Weight and Letting it Go – Spiritual and Energetic Approach

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“Manifesting your perfect weight is a natural result of realigning with your true self ” – Marianne Williamson

Have been waiting so long to write on this topic 🙂 but it is never too late to pen it down even now. Weight management has been a dear topic for me for last 15 years. Something I have read, researched and experimented myself. We are all born a few pounds in weight and gradually as we grow we keep on putting many more pounds; till one day we realize the few pounds are visible spilling from our clothes. This revelation for some creates an alarm these people take control of their health while for the others we get depressed and start detesting ourselves.

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This blog is for the latter type , the depressed, over critical, lazy bums who start seeing food as the forbidden apple and still go ahead and sneak a slice of pizza or a chocolate and then beat themselves up. Food is highly emotional , when we are happy we feast when we are sad we binge. Food is an essential part of our lives and one of the ways to share love and affection. In Indian families mothers spend most of the the time cooking for the family pouring all their love in desserts and delicacies 🙂 So we cannot do much about food it will be around us tempting and enticing but yes some changes can be made and most of us have also adapted to healthy eating.

With my experience of 78 kgs (172 pounds) in 2007-2008 ; I realized even with a normal diet and moderate activity I  just gained around 8 kgs approx with ease and did not realize till I stepped on a weighing scale. For most of us weight gain just happens and it is so gradual that we are unable to notice till we get a critical compliment from our friends/colleagues or partners 😉

I am a certified Pranic Healer and lately I attended a course on Pranic Weightloss and Body Sculpting and was so surprised to learn that excess weight is nothing but energy , it is an energy that is stuck up due to our emotions. It has not much to do with exercise or dieting. Our bodies are completely neutral the way they behave is an effect rather than a cause. What has to be consumed, stored or expelled out of the body is the work of our mind.

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Let us understand this stuck up energy , we understand that our bodies metabolism and secretions of hormones are controlled through the brain activity , the brain works as a response to our thoughts. Thoughts are broadly divided into Fear based thoughts and Love based thoughts. The cause of excess fat in the body is fear which blocks out love.

I know you must be thinking most of the fat people look happier 🙂 but it is an external appearance put up these beautiful people mostly. When we do a session the emotions of under confidence,low self esteem and a habit of  constant negative self talk is observed. The fear based thoughts include, shame, insecurity and low self esteem. These thoughts have energy which is contracting and dark grey and this can be felt while scanning. These are really old thought forms that get stuck and refuse to move even with best of diet plan and exercise regime. So your fat is all the anger and hate you have directed to yourself and others.

The world renowned author Louis L. Hay in her book, You Can Heal Your Life, writes that the probable causes of excess weight are: Fear; need for protection; Running away from feelings; Insecurity, self-rejection, Seeking fulfillment, and others She goes on to say, “Fat is related to Over sensitivity. Often represents fear and shows a need for protection. Fear may be a cover for hidden anger and a resistance to forgive.”

According to Louise, fat in the arms can mean “anger at being denied love.”

Fat on the belly can mean “anger at being denied nourishment” and

Fat on the hips can be “lumps of stubborn anger at the parents”. Even fat on the thighs can be “packed childhood anger, often rage at the father.

Interesting isn’t it?  Most of us hold on to fat to mask our insecurities in relationships, work, life ahead etc etc. Our natural state is Love and love is detachment, love is letting go. The energy of love is moving , it is expansive. So whether it is relationships or food if we practice detachment we show love.Obsession for either a person or for any substance happens when we are ready to give and do not know how to receive. We keep holding for more because we do not feel we are getting back the desired response.

Here is a beautiful workshop conducted every year on 21 Days of Emotional Weightloss and Emotional Detox happens on http://www.sargammishra.com

Life is all about creating a love affair and if we do so with our food and bodies the response is amazing. Trust me your body needs your love and appreciation as much as other people in your life or even more. Here are few suggestions that you can include in your day to day life :

Tips for a Spiritual Weight Loss 🙂

1. Make some time to be with self – Take out 30 minutes in a day for yourself where you can just focus on your self this is your time of “self love”

2. ‘Mirror’ – Your best friend – I keep hearing my friends and family complaining that I am obsessed with mirrors; and I openly admit I am I deliberately made it a habit to smile and mentally say “I love you gorgeous”  when ever I see a mirror. Next time you catch me smiling just like that you will know what I am thinking. This helps in lifting your self esteem.

3. Project love to your body – Your body is the  temple of your soul no matter what it looks like it is sacred. Always remember you cannot do away with anything you are in resistance with. You will have to first accept yourself with whatever weight you are right now and then only you will be able to condition it to look its best. So mentally do an affirmation ” I approve of my self, I salute the divinity within me and I promise to maintain a healthy relationship with my body through my mind”

4.Bless anything that you put into your mouth – Food/Water any edible stuff just mentally bless it, as per Masaru Emoto’s experiment on water thoughts impact our reality so when we bless any negative energy that the food is cooked with or projected with is neutralized and is fortified with nourishment.

5. Surrender yourself to Source – When a fetus is 9 months in the womb of a mother there is a source that takes care of it , most of us are born healthy and normal. This is because nature is self correcting and providing.The minute the baby is born the parents take control and all hell breaks lose. We forget that we are all made in the image of god we are born to follow our bliss and encourage others to do the same. So whether it is your excess weight, it is your issues and problems just surrender them to source. Remember the emotional baggage will become the excess weight better to leave it to the God than carry it with you 😉

You can also visit a certified Pranic healer for Pranic Weight loss and Body Sculpting program. As I said I had my own journey with weight loss and self image here is a sneak peak :). We are not forever stuck with a fat, obese body the moment we choose to let go of our weight the transformation begins 🙂

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I will send a short visualization meditation to all the readers who will comment on this blog 🙂 – Much Love Sargam

 

Sharing a lovely meditation for weightloss with all of you

Crystals for Weightloss 

This pouch has 7 chosen crystals specially to aid Weightloss and emotional detox. This is curated specially for the 21 Days Spiritual Weight Loss and Emotional Detox Workshop participants.

The crystals are thoroughly cleansed and energized with personal programming by Sargam.

Along with the pouch you will receive a link to the instruction video from Sargam

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There is No Secret Ingredient :) – Self Love

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Sargam Self Love

The easiest way to practice spirituality in every day life is to love yourself. SELF LOVE is the new Prayer, a new Mantra , a new Meditation ”

When I was  in my 2nd grade that is the time I remember I used to have so much fun looking myself in the mirror I could just be standing and looking my self for hours, making different hair styles, looking at my smile and making lots of faces 🙂 I also loved crying in front of the mirror and would smile seeing how I looked so beautiful even when I cried 😉

I was my own personal favorite 🙂 and always treated myself special but somehow it was hard for my friends to understand this act of self love,  and they thought I was not humble. Gradually I learned that it was not good to tell people if you were good at anything upright as it was considered as being proud or boastful. I saw my parents rarely speaking about our accomplishments in front of us as they feared we would be flying on clouds of pride. Appreciation was rare and if some family/ friends complimented we would deflect the appreciation or shy away.

As I grew up I lost touch with the “self love” aspect and gradually it manifested as a self negating internal conversation of “I am not as good as xyz, her hair was better than mine, her grades are better, she sings better than me”. This constant negative self talk resulted in weight gain, dull complexion and poor self image. I started meeting people who reassured I am not so good and need to really work on my self physically and emotionally.

Even in my relationship I had tough time proving my worth 😦  but with time gradually I realized it was nothing to do with others but it was a reflection of my own thoughts and my own poor self image. In life we are all faced with tough situations testing times and if you instead of feeling victim of the external situations, you are able to look within and introspect you will understand how these people and situations are only a reflection . Thanks to my calling of Pranic Healing that helped me restore my faith in me 🙂 it made me believe I AM SPECIAL !!

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From Buddha to the Hollywood actor Johny Depp has spoken about how important it is to love your self. A person who cannot love himself or inflicts himself/herself of pain is responsible for inflicting pain to others. If you love yourself you will understand and appreciate the individuality of others ; you will be able to respect and appreciate others with an open heart.

We live our life thinking our selves to be average and keep looking for some secret ingredient to make us special without realizing that the secret ingredient was always with us 🙂

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Self Love helps us connect with our own self and trust me when I write this I write out of experience , the first time I stood in front of the mirror dropping all judgement about me and looked into my eyes there was so much I wanted to say to my self. There was so much love , so much acceptance I had deprived myself of. I had feared been alone by myself and I was just craving for someone else to love me, approve me, compliment me. After a couple of minutes there was this knowing that I was not just what I could see in the mirror I was so much more and it was a big revelation. I just silently promised I will again bring back that child in me. I am Special and I did not need an assurance or approval for thinking this.

I know most of us have been in situations where we do not have time for ourselves, we are too busy in caring and loving others waiting for them to love us but if we continue this for a long time we will become emotionally bankrupt. Self Love is the way to maintain your bank balance of love.

Some quick questions to check your Self Love Quotient

1. Can you take up compliments with gratitude without deflecting them? Yes

2. Do you feel people who speak about their accomplishments are boasting? No

3.Can you spend time with yourself alone? Yes

4.Is your conversation with self something negative (comparative/self hating/fault finding)?? No

5.Can you see your self in the mirror and smile n feel happy or you feel sad? Yes

 

If your answers are opposite to what are written then you need to work on your Self Love quotient 🙂

Tips to Cultivate Self Love

1. Pay Gratitude (maintain a gratitude journal for the little things you like about yourself)

2. Smile whenever you see the mirror n give a mental compliment

3.Go out alone and treat yourself

4.Pursue a passion

5. Develop a positive self talk habit

In the world where we teach humility and encourage to keep our happiness on least priority ; Self Love is the only savior – Love Sargam

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Escaping ME by Seeing YOU – I cannot escape myself

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“This is love: to fly toward a secret sky, to cause a hundred veils to fall each moment. First to let go of life. Finally, to take a step without feet.” — Rumi

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Being born under the sun sign Pisces I love to escape from people and situations that are stressful into my own safe zone. This is an area I am constantly working with full awareness as even if I escape for a week or two or even for months once I am back I see more reasons to escape again 🙂

Most of us feel the same way even while counselling sessions I have discovered the problems are usually a blame on the external situations and people in our life. But in truth it is an escape from self , we are constantly running from situations and people which reflect our own inner self and as we constantly keep trying to change things outside and fail we are not able to change the situations/circumstances in our life.

In our close relationships we see the same situation, if a partner has a poor self image he/she will want others to help improve his/her self image. This leads to situations where he will want constant attention, respect and love and if the due attention is not given it will lead to rejection, sorrow and regret. The problem is most of us do not love our self and expect others to take charge of our happiness the truth is that all of us our struggling with our own self .

The escape from others is in truth an escape from self the other person is just a mirror he/she has nothing to do with their love/care/affection towards us they merely reflect our own feelings.

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There is nothing that can upset you except yourself, No one can give you anything that you do not take. Mostly it is your own nature that you cannot handle and you expect others to take care of which may not always be possible and you will end up feeling rejected.

Most of us need to cultivate love, compassion,faith and a deep respect for our own inner being once this relationship with self is established everything outside will change. As I sit writing this article I feel so much at ease to know I need to go nowhere to make a change to my life ; these are my own inner veils that need to fall to let go of my own fears.

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Here is a beautiful song by Jessica Simpson  I belong to Me 🙂

 

Be LOVE To Attract LOVE

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“The minute I heard my first love story,I started looking for you, not knowing
how blind that was.
Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere.They’re in each other all along.” 
― Rumi, The Illuminated Rumi

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Relationships are getting challenging in recent times, there is a constant struggle between partners as to who is the BOSS 🙂 With women taking up power positions and men losing the role  as providers in a family there are obvious insecurities in relationships. A midst all this people still want to have loving and nurturing relationships as love is the food we all crave for.

Two people can be in a relationship only if they are a vibrational match to each other. You attract people into your life who mirror what you give. In other words, what you vibrate, is what comes back to you – and there is no vibration higher than LOVE.

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What ever we want in love it can only come to you if you start giving it without conditions. Most of the people want their relationships to run one way. So we find either of the couple only giving or only receiving and then the relationships reaches a crisis where the one who is only giving has no more left to give and the other who is receiving can no more receive.

Also a very salient feature in love is “YOU CANNOT GIVE WHAT YOU DO NOT HAVE” it also applies materialistically 🙂 So the number one thing is to keep your love tank full by first loving yourself and accept yourself unconditionally. No one in the world can make you feel worthy if you yourself reject yourself.

Love IS or it IS’NT there is nothing like I loved you a year back, but not now …. if it is so the case then it was never LOVE 🙂

Most of the us hurt ourselves time and again to gain love and empathy or to test our loved ones and finally,  get hurt as the response is not what we expect. We have a hard time accepting ourselves and we continue tp tax our partners for not filling the gap.

Change is inevitable but no one can change the other person, LOVE IS ABOUT ACCEPTANCE OF GOOD BAD and UGLY and being non judgmental. Security in love is when there is no I or YOU it is WE, the insecurity is only when there is EGO.

Be Love in all ways, show love for yourself , respect yourself , practice self freedom, practice self trust and sincerity for your own self and then only then you can be LOVE”

It’s a story of hope. For twenty years, The 5 Love Languages has been improving marriages… one language at a time

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