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Escaping ME by Seeing YOU – I cannot escape myself

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“This is love: to fly toward a secret sky, to cause a hundred veils to fall each moment. First to let go of life. Finally, to take a step without feet.” — Rumi

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Being born under the sun sign Pisces I love to escape from people and situations that are stressful into my own safe zone. This is an area I am constantly working with full awareness as even if I escape for a week or two or even for months once I am back I see more reasons to escape again 🙂

Most of us feel the same way even while counselling sessions I have discovered the problems are usually a blame on the external situations and people in our life. But in truth it is an escape from self , we are constantly running from situations and people which reflect our own inner self and as we constantly keep trying to change things outside and fail we are not able to change the situations/circumstances in our life.

In our close relationships we see the same situation, if a partner has a poor self image he/she will want others to help improve his/her self image. This leads to situations where he will want constant attention, respect and love and if the due attention is not given it will lead to rejection, sorrow and regret. The problem is most of us do not love our self and expect others to take charge of our happiness the truth is that all of us our struggling with our own self .

The escape from others is in truth an escape from self the other person is just a mirror he/she has nothing to do with their love/care/affection towards us they merely reflect our own feelings.

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There is nothing that can upset you except yourself, No one can give you anything that you do not take. Mostly it is your own nature that you cannot handle and you expect others to take care of which may not always be possible and you will end up feeling rejected.

Most of us need to cultivate love, compassion,faith and a deep respect for our own inner being once this relationship with self is established everything outside will change. As I sit writing this article I feel so much at ease to know I need to go nowhere to make a change to my life ; these are my own inner veils that need to fall to let go of my own fears.

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Here is a beautiful song by Jessica Simpson  I belong to Me 🙂

 

Balancing of Shiva and Shakti

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A lot of relationships are undergoing transformation with the rise in the earth vibrations some are feeling the change now whereas some have been struggling with the changes for past few years.

The issue is not a change in the partner (any relationship) or your perspective of him/her ,it is actually a change where men/women are experiencing a tug of war within, the tug of war is between the conventional projections that have been passed on through generations or simply the way society defines them.

Since years there is a deep misconception about the roles of masculine and feminine energy in the world. The belief is that masculine energy is a dominant energy, while feminine energy is a submissive energy.  This war between the masculine and the feminine has caused many women to forsake their femininity in an attempt at equality, and many men to forsake their masculine energy out of guilt or embarrassment. In Hindu Mythology this is represented by Shiv and Shakti (Lord Shiva and his consort Shakti )

SHIVA symbolises consciousness, the masculine principle.
SHAKTI symbolises the feminine principle, the activating power and energy.

Whenever a power becomes active, and wherever energy exists, Shakti is working. Other terms for these primal principles are PURUSHA and PRAKRITI; Purusha is consciousness and Prakriti is nature.

Lord Shiva is generally portrayed holding a trident, which represents the trinity of Īshwara, Purusha and Prakriti .

Īshwara is the omnipresent, eternal, formless divine principle; Purusha is the Ātmā and Prakriti is the manifestation, nature. An electric light can be used to explain their relationship. The electric current, which is the source of the light, is Īshwara; the light is Purusha, and the object that is illuminated is Prakriti.

SHAKTI (or Prakriti) means energy, power, movement,change, nature. It is the maternal principle – the provider, abundance. In the human as well as in the animal kingdom the mother offers nourishment, warmth and security. There is no greater love than the love of a mother. The mother carries and nourishes the child in her own body. When it is born she provides it with mother’s milk and raises it at the sacrifice of her own self until it becomes self-reliant.

SHIVA (or Purusha), on the other hand, is pure consciousness – the unchanging, unlimited and unswayable observer. Purusha has no desires whatsoever; these are inherent only in Prakriti. Purusha is the empty, clear screen onto which Prakriti projects her colourful film.

Shiva and Shakti are manifestations of the all-in-one divine consciousness – different sides of the same coin.In many pictures these two primal powers are each depicted as being one half of the same image; one side female and one side male. The left side is the Divine Mother, Pārvatī, the “feminine” energy, and the right side represents Shiva, the “masculine” consciousness.

Through the splitting of the primordial principle at the advent of creation the duality within our lives came into being, together with a strong force that is constantly striving to re-unite with the other part.

Only when Shiva and Shakti combine can action, movement and creation arise. Until energy is impregnated with consciousness it is ignorant, disordered, aimless and “blind”. Energy alone can produce nothing; consciousness bestows upon it content, form and direction. Conversely, consciousness without energy is dormant power, sleeping energy, and on its own is unable to be the cause of anything. Just as Prakriti without Purusha is unable to act, and vice versa, Purusha without Prakriti is also incapable of creating anything.

The balance between Purusha and Prakriti, Shiva and Shakti is where the creation is heading. On this Occasion of Shivratri let us invoke for creative masculine and feminine energies within ourselves.

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Shiva Shakti/Ardhanarishwar depiction of balanced divine femine and masculine in Hindu mythology

So do not worry if in relationships your partner speaks about compassion, love,trust,passion and intimacy and gives it priority over control and dominance. Open up your hearts and welcome the change now 🙂 trust me it is for good… for you and the world.

!!Om Mani Padme Hum!!

Lots of Love -Sargam

Let us understand what is divine masculine and divine feminine:

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Divine Masculine Qualities:

Create, protect, provide, acquire, power, self-control, responsibility, leadership, safety, curiosity, strength, spatial

Destructive Divine Masculine Qualities

Aggression, violent, conquer, take, steal, rape, harm, torture, terrorize, force, egotistical, bully, narcissistic, pillage, exploit, greed, war, lack, scarcity

Divine Feminine Qualities:

Compassion, collaboration, cooperation, nurturing, imaginative, connection, intimacy, love, creative, intuition, authenticity, vulnerable, feelings, empathy, passion, envisioning, abundance, peace

Destructive Divine Feminine Qualities

Passive-aggression, enslaved, intimidated, desperation, powerless, apathetic, surrendered

Mindful Presence In Relationships -Being There

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“The Best Gift You Can Give Someone Is Your Time”

To love, is above all to be there for your loved ones mindfully. But being there is not an easy thing,If you are not there, how can you love? Being a part of someone’s life is a great privilege which has its own responsibilities. Most of the time we take it for granted because gradually with time we are assured that they will always be there. So we miss our anniversary, our son’s parent teacher meeting, our daughter’s performance at the annual day some parents don’t even remember their kid’s date of birth. Can you relate to any of this?? If yes it is time you pay attention to your relationships and all the wonderful people who are sharing their life with you.

The most precious gift you can give to the one you love is your true presence. What must we do to really be there? Those who have practiced meditation know that meditating is above all being present: to yourself, to those you love, to life.

Here is a very simple practice of mindful breathing: “Breathing–I know that I am breathing in; breathing–I know that I am breathing out.” If you do that with a little concentration, then you will be able to really be there, because in our daily life our mind and our body are rarely together. Our body might be there, but our mind is somewhere else. Maybe you are lost in regrets about the past, maybe in worries about the future, or else you are preoccupied with your plans, with anger or with jealousy. And so your mind is not really there with your body.

Between the mind and the body, there is something that can serve as a bridge. The moment you begin to practice mindful breathing, your body and your mind begin to come together with one another. It takes only 10 to 20 seconds to accomplish this miracle called oneness of body and mind. With mindful breathing, you can bring body and mind together in the present moment, and every one of us can do it, even a child.

Practice of simple words can help in understanding the true meaning of being there.

“Dear one, I am here for you.” Perhaps this evening you will try for a few minutes to practice mindful breathing in order to bring your body and mind together. You will approach the person you love and with this mindfulness, with this concentration, you will look into his or her eyes, and you will begin to utter this formula: “Dear one, I am really here for you.” You must say that with your body and with your mind at the same time, and then you will see the transformation.

Do you have enough time to love? Can you make sure that in your everyday life you have a little time to love? We do not have much time together; we are too busy. In the morning while eating breakfast, we do not look at the person we love, we do not have enough time for it. We eat very quickly while thinking about other things, and sometimes we even hold a newspaper that hides the face of the person we love. In the evening when we come home, we are too tired to be able to look at the person we love.

We must bring about a revolution in our way of living our everyday lives, because our happiness, our lives, are within ourselves.

Lots of Love  Sargam

Reference :http://www.beliefnet.com/Love-Family/Relationships/Holidays/Valentines-Day/Do-You-Have-Time-To-Love