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Sargam is a life enhancement coach and mentor. Connect with Sargam on www.sargammishra.com

Lapis Lazuli – A Crystal of Royalty

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Turn your ideas to reality using this beautiful blue crystal Lapis Lazuli it aligns the Heart and Mind and gives expression to the sacral chakra energy.

As per the esoteric teaching Dath, the throat chakra is the abyss to higher consciousness and it is a beautiful crystal to help stimulate the third eye chakra. You can find this teachings in the Pranic Healing course Spiritual Essence of Man

The stone of the gods to create/for creation purposes/crystal grids and to turn your dreams into reality through action. An excellent crystal associated with royalty Venus, Aphrodite, ISIS, Athena ….read on

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To the Egyptians, lapis lazuli represented all good things. In later periods, the Egyptian word for lapis lazuli, khesbedj, became a synonym for “joy” and “delight.” In the Book of Coming Forth by Day, lapis lazuli is connected with abundance as in this passage: “O you who sweeten the state of the Two Lands, you with whom are provisions, you with whom is lapis lazuli.” Another text repeats the association then connects the deceased, “the bull of lapis lazuli,” with the Star Goddess, Sothis. “I am the bull of lapis lazuli, unique and exalted, Lord of the Field, Bull of the Gods. Sothis speaks to me in her good time.” Because of its positive associations, lapis lazuli was used in many different types of amulets, but was especially employed for the heart amulet. Egyptian judges were known to wear lapis lazuli stones about their necks inscribed with the word “truth.”

Today, we still associate lapis lazuli with some of the same qualities that the ancient Egyptians did. We, too, associate the heaven-blue stone with the heavenly qualities of spirituality and psychism. Just as the Egyptians associated it with joy, today’s metaphysicians say that lapis lazuli helps relieve melancholy. And just as the ancient Egyptians connected lapis lazuli with fertility, regeneration, and abundance, so we understand it to give an abundant boost to creativity.(Source:https://isiopolis.com/2014/10/05/isis-with-the-lapis-lazuli-head/)

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Colored Prana : Blue,Gold
Element: Water
Chakra :Throat, Ajna, Crown
God:Nuit, Venus, Isis, Sin;
Angel: Sahaquiel, Michael
Planet: Venus

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Magickal Uses of Lapis Lazuli

Lapis can be used to attract spiritual love and infuse fidelity in a relationship. It is also used to strengthen your inner wisdom, psychic awareness and intuition.

Lapis helps to disconnect the conscious and subconscious mind and boosts intuition. Lapis lazuli is a very protective stone.

Healing with Lapis Lazuli

Body: Lapis helps relieve headaches and migraines, eases eyestrain and calms the nervous system. It is also used to help reduce inflammation. Do not use to make a traditional elixir due to the sulfur content of the stone.

Mind: Lapis lazuli helps to relieve depression.

Care and Cleansing

Sunlight can affect the color of Lapis lazuli. Use incense or a singing bowl to cleanse and recharge by laying on a clear crystal over night under the moon.

 

Love and Light!

Sargam

 

 

 

 

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Selenite – ‘Bring In the Light’

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I recently came across selenite and instantly fell in love with the beautiful white light that it emits. The Selenite crystal is a light bringer and can light any area within you and around you that is dark so this is a perfect crystal to keep where you want light (energy)

It is gypsum and is a sensitive crystal on a Moh’s scale it is a 2 and is easily soluble in water. This crystal does not need cleansing and energising  just some light to replenish. So keep it near a window where there is plenty of sunlight. You can also put it out in a few days to let it soak the light.

The word Selena is a greek word for moon and it is just as gorgeous as the full moon. You can see the beautiful selenite in the video it feel as if you are holding the moon. The energy is cooling and calming.

Selenite is a great altar piece as it is continually clearing low vibrational energies, working in pure love & light. It increases overall clarity and worldly awareness, as it shifts your thoughts to a higher frequency.

Simple word of caution: Selenite is a high vibration crystal and you need to be prepared to work with this crystal. When I say prepared it means expect a powerful detoxification at all levels and in every area of your life.

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Colored Prana: Brilliant White Light
Element: Water
Archangel: Uriel
Planet: Moon
Chakra: All Chakras

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Selenite crystals help to remove all energy blockages in the body and also the subtle bodies. If you place a selenite wand on any area of the body that feels sore or tight, for about 20 minutes, and you will feel the difference.

Selenite is also excellent for clearing and purifying jewelry and environments. I often place my crystal healing jewelry on a Selenite charging plate over night, and in the morning, it feels light and clean.

The selenite healing properties hold the energy of the light and it feels good. When I hold Selenite wand or stone, I know I am holding a piece of Mother Nature’s most magnificent creation. One of the most beautiful displays of Selenite appears in the Naica Cave, in Mexico. The largest one weighs around 55 tons and estimated to be 50,000 years old.

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Test the crystal for yourself by holding it for 11 minutes and if it feels great try sleeping with it under the pillow.

Let me know your experience.

Sargam

‘Amethyst’ The Crystal

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Amethyst the crystal of Intuition and Emotional Harmony

Amethyst was used in ancient times to recover from both physical addictions as well as addictive relationships, and became known as the stone of sobriety. A natural stress reliever, Amethyst encourages and supports inner strength.

In Pranic Healing we use it for producing Violet and Electric Violet Prana.

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One of the Most Revered Crystal in the Spiritual and Healing Community

Being a pranic healer has been one of the biggest blessing in my life and still is 🙂 . I have been a crystal lover since my childhood as my mother was very fond of astrological gemstones. So by the age of 12-15 I knew a list of crystals and their uses as well as when and which finger to wear them. Seriously ! This is actually a brief background of my love for crystals. Then after my mother transitioned in 2000 I was focussed on my studies and somewhere forgot all about crystals. However In 2010 I had to fly to Vancouver for an official assignment and I came across this beautiful small crystal shop near my hotel I stayed nearly for a month in Vancouver and this shop became my favourite hangout place. Every day I used to stop by and explore crystals at their shop and there was other shamanic and Native American stuff which I absolutely loved.

One of my client counterpart whom I met during this project in Vancouver is also a crystal lover and is into native American art and jewellery we are still connected and  I love her. Here are few pics of Vancouver , every journey , every person that we meet is aligned with our divine purpose so keep your heart and mind open.

Amethyst has a rich history with Romans and Greeks wearing them in their jewellery and amulets. I love this crystal as it is a crystal for Pisceans too and the beautiful purple and lavender color is associated with Violet Flame.

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Colored Prana : Violet and Electric Violet
Element: Air (Intellect & Intuition)
Chakra: Crown ,Forehead & Ajna
Direction : East 
Hindu God: Indra
Angel:Archangel Zadkiel and his twin flame, Holy Amethyst

With an amplified intuition, Amethyst crystal is said to enhance your decision making power. For this reason, it’s often said to be one of the powerful crystals for healing addiction. Helping to break negative patterns and pursue positive alternatives, amethyst gently, but surely guides you toward transformation.

One of the less well known facts about Amethyst and other violet stones is that they embody the vibration of the Violet Flame, brought to renown by Saint Germaine.

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If you’re having trouble making a business decision, you’re not sure in which direction you should move next, try placing an Amethyst stone in your office or on your desk. The combination of the stress relieving properties, which take a lot of the fear and hesitation out your deliberation, and the intuitive properties, which empower you to trust your gut instinct, will increase the likelihood of a positive result. Whether you’re tapping into Amethyst to better your business, bring peace into your relationship, break free from your addiction or to get the rest you need each night, this stone can improve areas of your life that you didn’t even realise needed cleansing.

Amethyst Crystals, are one of the most potent stones against psychic attack and protection.They will also guard against psychic attack, transmuting negative energy into the positive energy of love.

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Ranging from lavender to deep purple this gemstone has a long affiliation with spiritual development and attunement.  It is a perfect partner to hold during mediation or to add to your desk to create an environment of tranquility.

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Chevron Amethyst

Chevron Amethyst: the clarity bringer.

A combination of Amethyst and White Quartz, in a banded pattern, Chevron Amethyst combines the strengthening and enhancing qualities of Quartz with the visionary qualities of Amethyst. It draws back the veils that obscure hidden things. Chevron Amethyst is one of the best stones to work with the third eye, enhancing psychic sight on all planes of existence and removing negativity. It is particularly helpful for cleansing and repairing the aura. It is also said to deepen the meditative state, enhancing the quality and frequency of visions and inspiration from higher realms. It is particularly useful shaped into skulls that will relay intuitive guidance from higher realms. (Judy Hall)

Crystallify your Life!

Sargam!

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11 Ways to Crystallify Your Life

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Today, more people than ever before are open to using healing crystals. These gems have thousands — sometimes millions — of years of the Earth’s history stored within them that you can harness to tap into your most magnificent self. But just like with any healing practice, diet, or exercise, a crystal routine that works for one person won’t necessarily work for another.

There are countless ways to work with these amazing stones.

11 ways to Crystallify Your Life 

 1.Using Crystals as Healing Tools

As a Pranic Healer I was introduced to crystals in Pranic Crystal Healing course and I loved how crystal lasers, disintegrators , extractors could reduce the healing time by 1/10th or even less. Mainly we use clear quartz crystals for healing but amethyst, rose quartz , black onyx can also be used by advanced healers based upon the patient ailment.Quartz-Wand-Capture.png

2. Crystal Jewellery

static1.squarespace.jpgCrystal jewellery has been around the days of the kings and queens who adorned themselves with precious and semi precious jewellery. Jewellery is an excellent way to experience the energy of these beautiful minerals and have said to be effective in raising the vibrations of the wearer. One of the best ways to wear them is in the form of bracelets, earrings and also necklaces. Ensure to cleanse and charge your jewellery regularly for maximum benefit. Check out Crystal Alchemy Jewellery which is handmade and energized so that it vibrates at the highest frequency.

3. Carry them in your purse/pocket

The magic of crystals can be felt when you are constantly  in touch with them. One of the best ways is to carry a crystal in your pocket or purse and  pull it out whenever you need to center yourself or bring your attention back to the intention you’re working towards. I have a bowl of crystals and based on which one attracts me on a particular day I just keep it with me and use it as a touchstone to center myself when needed.

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4. Create Your Sacred Space

Sacred spaces have quickly become popular — they’re now a must have in of yoga and meditation practice spaces. Using crystals in these calming displays adds a beautiful piece of earth energy and brings a peaceful, grounding presence. The crystals also remind you to reconnect with your intention each time you revisit your space.

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Amethyst is one of the most popular crystals for sacred spaces, because it emits positive energy and fosters a deeper state of meditation. Crystal points can help you set an intention in your space. Simply place one point on top of a piece of paper with your intention written on it, and the point amplifies the intention into the universe.

You can do this for your goals and wishes too we will do this in our upcoming event This Wesak Make A Wish 

 

 

5. Sleep Well with your Crystals

After a tiresome day you can choose to relax with your crystals , you can put them under your bed or your side table ensure the crystals are cleansed and charged. Then place them in your hand , close your eyes and just ask for what you need. It can be clarity, rest, peace, astral travel …just be creative with crystals and you will experience their presence.

Look for crystals that are of the Earth element, these are commonly browns, earthy reds and black. Crystals that are grounding or associated with the Lower Chakras are usually very helpful (sleep is a Lower Chakra activity).

Crystals that are calming, soothing, stress reducing, comforting and cleansing. For shapes try to stick to rounded forms like Tumble Stones, Eggs and Spheres. Some of the recommended crystals are Rose Quartz, Haematite, Red Jasper, Howlite, Selenite.

6.Bring positive energy to your décor

Healing crystals have been popping up in several home décor magazines, and for good reason. Larger crystals make for jaw-dropping statement pieces that work to shift the energy of a space. Amethyst, Clear Quartz for example, dispel negative energy and emits positive vibes — it’s the perfect addition to any room.

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7. Use Crystals as the DIY Spa Treatment

Crystals can infuse many self-care routines with healing properties. For a DIY crystal treatment, bring your crystals into the bath with you or let them soak in the water you use to wash your face. The crystal energy will have a peaceful and restorative affect on your at-home spa day.

sargam mishra rose water elixirYou can soak your rose quartz overnight in a bowl with some jasmine fresh flowers or rose petals and use that water to wash your face myth is beautiful women like cleopatra used these too.

 

8. Place crystals on your body

Putting crystals on your body has a completely different effect than simply holding them. If you’re working with a specific chakra, pick a stone that corresponds to that chakra and place it on your body. This serves to stir the energy around that chakra and bring up the emotions that you need to heal.

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To start, use smoky quartz to give your root chakra grounding energy or place an aventurine over your heart to open your heart chakra to giving and receiving love. You can place a quartz crystal above your head to open your crown chakra for enlightenment and guidance. Keeping a stone over your third eye during this process can help you enter a deeper state of meditation.

9. Make Your Own Beauty Elixirs

You can create your own beauty elixirs for example rose water /lavender water readily available in market can be energized by Rose Quartz and Aquamarine small soft tumbles. You can also put your beauty products on a rose quartz plate to energize them.

10. Use them in Your Meditation

It is beneficial to choose a crystal that radiates healing properties or energies that are in alignment with what you want to achieve from your meditation. Setting  an intention and meditating with your crystal each morning enhances and magnifies the expected outcome. When your mind is focused on your intention from the stillness of your meditation and energy of the crystal, you will have better motivation and inspiration for achieving your goals or receiving certain energy.

11. Amplify the Energy of your Kriyashakti

After you have written your Kriyashakti /wish you can place a clear quartz pyramid, point or cluster to amplify its energy this can help you in faster materialisation of your goals.

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It is an exciting world of mineral kingdom with my own experience of nearly a decade I am exploring my own ways of integrating crystals in daily life. As and when I get any new way to use them will update all of you.

 

Spread the crystal light!

Sargam

How Does Crystal Healing Work?

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“Consciousness sleeps in the stone, dreams in the plant, awakes in the animal and slowly becomes aware of itself in man.” (Pythagoras)

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Crystals are part of the mineral kingdom and it has its own consciousness. Its own subtle energy. In Consciousness of the Atom (COA) Alice Bailey writes on page 102 about minerals: “that they manifest signs of fatigue, and that it is possible to poison a mineral and to murder it, much as you can murder a human being.”
Most of the crystal readers will agree with the above lines, when a crystal is impregnated with dirty energy one can see the dullness in the appearance and a heaviness in the energy.
The mineral kingdom is the lowest and most dense part of the world of material forms, or “the densest expression of the life of God in substance” (Esoteric Psychology I, EP I, p. 228). Here the process of condensation or externalisation of the etheric planes takes place. Minerals are a precipitation of etheric substance.

“The goal for all mineral atomic forms is this radio-active condition, the power to pass through all limiting and environing substances. This is initiation, or the entering into a state of liberation, for all mineral appearances, and the organising of all forms in this kingdom…” (EP I, p. 197)

The secret of this kingdom is transmutation

Crystals have healing quality because of its chemical element foundation, energetic vibration (subtle energy) which adds to its colour & properties. The therapeutic qualities of minerals and crystals act on our subtle vehicles, which in turn bring changes to the physical body and the consciousness.

All energies have a twofold nature; they can be perceived as having strong vibrations, also a frequency of vibrations, and the subtle energies adhere to this ruling. If 5,500 different minerals exist, then equally 5,500 different kinds of mineral energies also exist. Each mineral creates a specific energy and all these energies differ in strength and vibrational frequency. Encoded within them is a special agent called the Element of Harmony which acts to ensure that balance and equilibrium are maintained throughout all the processes encountered by the energy.

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Holistic Healing with Crystals:

The first thing to consider is when you use crystals do not expect miracles to happen , crystals are allies they are beautiful energetic tools that work with your energy and intention. Michael Gienger postulates that the power of a crystal to generate light interacts with the cells of the physical body. What is clear is that crystals have an energy field that interacts with any other energy field near it.

At the most basic level, everything is energy. How it manifests is simply a matter of vibrational frequency and the crystalline structure (organic or inorganic) that enfolds it. The human body is no exception. It is a conductive energy system with crystalline structures in and around the blood, lymph and cells and it is repaired and maintained by a complex electrochemical system.

In other words, it runs on vibrations.

Time and distance have no relevance in crystal healing. Research has shown that the brainwaves of a healer and the recipient synchronise, or entrain, no matter what the distance. The same may well be true of crystals. This is how I use programming of crystals for healing long distance.

In order to understand healing let us look at the following considerations that can give a fair idea as to how crystals help in healing.

Points to consider:

  • Only one thousand millionth part of our body is matter. The rest is energy
  • The human body is around 75-55 per cent water, and that water is found in every part of the body, water is crystalline in nature therefore the human body is crystallin
  • Crystals generate, store and radiate energy
  • Quantum physics describes energy controls matter
  • Fundamental particles such as electrons can influence each other at a considerable distance
  • Each individual crystal carries the energetic resonance of the crystal type, no matter where in the world it may be
  • Everything is interconnected in such a way that the smallest piece contains the properties of the whole (the holographic universe)

Based on the above what I deduce is that crystal healing works by bringing back into equilibrium all the separate elements of the body, utilising universal energetic forces that are encoded into the crystals.

The energetic (auric) field of a crystal interacts with that of a human being or a particular environment, with each part influencing the other. This can work at a distance, powered by intention and consciousness.

In other words, as Professor John Wheeler puts it, ‘In some strange sense the quantum principle tells us that we are dealing with a participatory universe.’

 

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Happy Healing

Sargam !

Sources: https://www.healyourlife.com/how-crystals-work-the-science-of-crystal-healing
https://www.theosophical.org/publications/quest-magazine/42-publications/quest-magazine/1534-clairvoyant-observation-of-minerals
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Crystal Cleanse Rituals

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Here is one of the most asked about post on How to cleanse & Recharge the crystals.

First let us understand why we need to cleanse a crystal after we have purchased it.

When you get a crystal, you may be excited to use it just like the way you get it as you feel they are new to you, but frankly for the crystal it is a long journey before reaching its final destination in your hands. The crystal was mined from the earth, passed off to different handlers, who then gave it to a vendor, to sell to a retailer, where it went through the touch of various customers before your eyes caught sight of it and it was taken.

That’s a lot of collected energy and subtle programming. Because we all want a fresh start for our new journey with our crystals, it’s important that the first step you take is cleansing your crystals.

Key Take Aways…

  • How to cleanse your crystals with the power of mantras, cleansing crystals like Quartz or Selenite, the sacred smoke of sage, sandal wood, lavender, and use prana from nature like the earth, light of the moon or sun and air
  • Using the excess energy post meditation to bless the crystals
  • How to program your crystals and make them work for you

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As a crystal lover I have explored several ways of cleansing my crystals some techniques are highly therapeutic for my own spirit as they are for my crystals. From getting some relaxation & meditation during the full moon, or enjoying a nice mantra sound, carrying some of my crystals during spiritual retreats, laying them out on a sunny beach, or letting them be in sunlight/moonlight often are some fun methods for cleansing and charging my crystals to get both me and my crystals in the highest, purified spirits.

Use your crystals as often as needed. Your crystal’s energy can get congested, heavy and dull, just like your own. So be sure to do a periodic crystal cleansing to get the most out of your continued work with your stone.

6 Simple Methods for Cleansing & Charging Your Crystals

1.Sunlight or Moonlight Spa

As a healer when you feel the intensity of energy becoming less from your crystals or it appears heavy it is time to cleanse and recharge. They may even appear as dull and not as vibrant it is a sign let them connect with nature. Let your crystals bathe outside in light of the sun or moon for at least 4 -6 hours. Especially with the large crystals in your home, although it can be a process, make sure that you place them outside to clear and recharge at least once a month.

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Be gently aware of the nature devas in the light, earth and air surrounding the crystals and invoke them to cleanse your crystals thoroughly. You can put a salt water bowl to absorb any dirty energy expelled by the crystals.

2 Visualisation & Meditation

Light a candle and place it in the middle of your crystals. After completing your meditation use the excess energy to purify and recharge your crystals. With the intention of cleansing or charging, picture pure white light emanating from your hands and passing through the crystals. Sit in a clear and centered state, tune into your crystal, and simply ask it to clear or charge, depending on what you feel is needed.

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3.Using Crystals to Cleanse Crystals (Quartz or Selenite)

You can pair your crystals with either a selenite or quartz crystal! Both of these crystals have the unique ability to cleanse, recharge and purify the energy of other crystals, without diminishing their own energy. Lay your crystals and tumbled stones on a piece of Clear quartz or a selenite charging plate for 6 -8 hours. Place your jewelry on a large crystal cluster every night and next morning they will be energized to wear and work with you.

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4.Smudge and Clear your Crystals

Not only will burning Sage, Frankincense, and Sandal wood , Lavender make your home smell great and purify it, they’ll have your crystals feeling great too. Immerse your crystals in the sacred smoke until it seems to come back to life. This is likely the best option for larger, harder to pick up crystals. Simply use your a feather or your hand to waft the smoke over and around the crystal.

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You can use natural incense sticks to smudge (3-5-7)

5.Mantra Therapy

Use the sacred chants of ‘OM’ to cleanse your crystals, sound bath can help the dirty energy within the crystals to disintegrate. Use 108 Om Chants and ring the bells a couple of times to cleanse the space around the crystals. You can place a saltwater bowl also to absorb the dirty energy.

6. Allow Crystals to Sleep in the Mother Earth

We could all use an energetic reset in nature every now and then. To give your crystal that revitalizing pleasure, place it on the soil or even bury it within the Earth for 24 hours.

Note: make sure you are mindful when placing certain crystals in water; many of the softer ones that are salt-based will dissolve when they get wet. 

 

Here are the recommended products

  • Dried California White Sage  Smudge Sticks
  • Lavender Incense Sticks by Auroshikha
  • Om Mantra Chants by MCKS

 

Love N Light!

Poly Cystic Ovaries PCOS/PCOD – Energy Healing Approach

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female-reproductive-systemPolycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) is a hormonal disorder common among women of reproductive age. Women with PCOS may have infrequent or prolonged menstrual periods or excess male hormone (androgen) levels. The ovaries may develop numerous small collections of fluid (follicles) and fail to regularly release eggs.

The exact cause of PCOS is unknown.  Source: Mayo Clinic.

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Here is some more information on PCOS and the numbers are alarming 1- IN -EVERY 10 Women has PCOS/PCOD today.                                                                                There is a whole bunch of issues that follow PCOS including diabetes, weight gain, infertility, irregular periods to name a few. These are physical conditions but the emotional and mental symptoms are quite alarming like anxiety and depression.

The woman of today is going through a tough time because somewhere  between the gender wars where we have a constant need to prove we are better than men or women are equal to men we are missing out on being a WOMAN. We are still struggling with gender issues like female infanticides, rape crimes, corporate gender bias , dowry deaths, all of these fears and insecurities have silently drifted us from womanhood.

Amidst all of these somewhere You as a WOMAN feel disconnected from your own divine feminine qualities. The pride and happiness of being born a woman is seldom celebrated by you or others around you. Imagine Our mothers, grandmothers and great grand mothers have all paid a huge price to ensure that as a woman you and I can live our joy , we can embrace our sexuality and feel proud of being a woman. If even today we are shameful of being a woman and mask our sexuality by shaming ourselves and others for being connected with the divine feminine* we are going against our energetic constitution.

*Divine feminine qualities are ; creation, birth, healing, receptivity, openness, motherhood, nurturing, love, understanding, compassion, insight, intuition, wisdom, forgiveness, sensuality.

When as woman you disown your sexuality you suppress the joy of being a woman the hormones that nurture the female reproductive system are triggered by your thoughts and emotions and when your thoughts and emotions are constantly dreading your being as a woman you are constantly playing against your constitution, that which differentiates you from a man physically and emotionally, the reason why you were constituted a certain way.

We all are so focussed on making it big in life , somewhere we are sacrificing our desires of being mothers, nurturers and caregivers as we see it as one of the biggest hurdles in our success and growth. As women we have also taken an active role in family for helping financially , it is also important for us to continue earning and hence we restrict ourselves from procreation. Various over the counter pills, poor nutrition and inability to take care of our health also adds to woes of female wellbeing.

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Let us look this emotional condition from the energy perspective (Chakras)

So when you are emotionally suppressing your emotions or are dwelling with lower emotions (anger, resentment, anxiety) your Solar Plexus chakra and back heart chakra is impacted as this is happening with improper thinking to some extent your upper chakras are out of balance. (Crown, Backhead, Ajna , Forehead) when you consistently repress sexual energies and are disconnected with your sexuality your sex chakra is adversely impacted. The Sex chakra provides prana to your reproductive organs.  The energy has to move from lower to upper chakras and upper to lower chakras. With these chakras adversely impacted (blocked) you create an imbalance in your life force energy. Those in energy healing modality can now understand the cause of the additional symptoms of PCOS?PCOD.

Pranic Healing has a beautiful protocol for healing PCOS/PCOD depending on the condition you can get physical and psychological healing for this condition.

“Incurable means curable from within”.

Here I am sharing some self help tips and techniques for initiating your healing journey:

  • Self Love – No matter how cliche’d is self love a lot of issues with our physical body happens because of suppressing our emotions, self sabotaging beliefs, self harm in thoughts and emotions. here is how you can practice self love in daily life.
  • Forgiving the Past – Psychosomatic illnesses and other disease are a result of holding a lot of pent up emotions within us. Most of us carry a lot of baggage from our past the hurt from relationships and emotional turmoil caused by others can still be felt as thorns in the heart. Some of us nurture these thoughts and emotions so as to keep the fire burning by holding on these memories and then feeling the pain in times of solitude. Here is a beautiful forgiveness technique to help you heal.
  • Embrace Your Feminity – Connect with the divine feminine qualities within you appreciate your sexuality and accept it with love. The incarnated soul chooses its form prior to birth because it has certain lessons to learn and master them. So be respectful of the choice you made and live it gracefully.
  • Affirmations – Louise Hay is a pioneer in affirmations for healings and here are some affirmations that can help in healing PCOS. If you carefully reflect these affirmations also give you insight into your own thought patterns, so you can mentally replace these program from your system through affirmations.

Ovaries– Represent point of creation. Creativity.
Affirmation- “I am balanced in my creative flow.”

Female Problems– Denial of the self.
Affirmation- “I rejoice in my femaleness. I love being a woman. I love my body.”

Cysts– Running an old painful movie.
Affirmation- “The movies of my mind are beautiful because I choose to make them so. I love me.”

  • Using Crystals to Support Healing being a certified crystal healer I feel if one uses crystals with proper instructions and guidance it can help in healing any physical conditions/support the healing. Crystals like Rose Quartz, Moonstone, Carnelian

Metaphysical Properties for Rose Quartz: Rose Quartz is a stone of unconditional love! It opens your Heart and Crown Chakras to all forms of love: self-love, family love, platonic love, and romantic love. The elevated energy of Quartz gives Rose Quartz allows it to enhance love in virtually any situation, bringing gentleness, forgiveness, and tolerance. Rose Quartz opens you up to the beauty and love in everything

Metaphysical Properties for Moonstone: Grab a Moonstone when you need to feel balanced or are changing aspects in your life. It brings calm through awareness and provides the energy to sustain you through stages of growth. It’s a highly intuitive stone that allows self-expression and creativity to your energy flow.It is one of the best stones used to promote ease of pregnancy and childbirth, to enhance fertility, relieve PMS, to eliminate insomnia and circulatory disorders.

Metaphysical Properties Carnelian

This will be a perfect stone for women who lead very busy and sometimes chaotic lives. When you are surrounded by the stabilizing energies of carnelian, you will continue to function on high energy levels.Carnelian stones are not only very pretty and decorative stones, but they can also do wonders for your health and well-being. For starters, they can help with a woman’s reproductive issues.Health problems that concern the uterus, vagina, cervix, the fallopian tubes, and the ovaries can be eased or remedied by the energy of carnelian stones.

 

Love and Light

Sargam

 

Relationship Beyond Transactions

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So we completed an amazing workshop of Enlightened Relationships in the month of Love. Once again as we concluded this workshop I was left with some thoughts on how everyday people create a recipe for dis functional relationships and then we spend our life looking for solutions. One of the biggest issues that I see among couples is their underlying silent contracts based on their transactions in love and manipulation to meet their needs. Before we deep dive let us understand what is a TRANSACTIONAL RELATIONSHIP?

A transactional relationship is a relationship where both (or all) parties are in it for themselves, and where partners do things for each other with the expectation of reciprocation. This expectation in relationships is underlying not verbally communicated or agreed , it is a kind of one sided contract with a one sided understanding. For example you being with your partner when he or she is unwell silently expecting he will be there with you too when you need him. If this does not happen you feel betrayed, let down. Silently you binded the person in a contract which he/she was not aware.

Anything done to a partner /relationship without unconditional love  but in anticipation of reciprocation is like silently creating a one sided contract without mutual agreement.

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Almost all relationships start here. People tend to date a person because of what they get out of it. Doing otherwise would actually be kind of weird. Genuine concern for a partner’s well-being (some might call it “love”) is something that generally grows as the relationship progresses. But some relationships never get past the transactional stage.

The roots of this kind of relationships are sowed early in the childhood where as soon as a child is born the parents start binding the child in several one sided contracts. The child is invisibly attached to the strings where they are suppose to take care of the parent’s expectations to meet the parent’s needs of feeling loved, understood and respected. The child is manipulated to do what the parent’s feel is best for the child. This is often done by using love and acceptance as a tool. So parent’s can cut off the supply of love and acceptance if a child goes against their wishes.

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Since child hood you are told what you need to grow up as, which subjects to choose, what to aspire for so that the parent’s can feel important in the society and most of the times money is spent on you so that they are sure that in old age you are indebted to take care of them. None of this is said this way, I know I sound tooo bad, but somewhere silently we create these silent contracts and feel deeply betrayed when our child decides to marry a girl of their choice. The child chooses a career that he /she is passionate about. The child scores low in college and the list is long.

When this child grows up he /she uses the same tactics to manipulate the partner in love. Because this is what he or she knows about love. The following equations can be seen in a transactional relationship.

  1. Either meet people needs to be indespensable , the people pleaser attitude where a person has extremely low self esteem, low self love and self image and associates their worth from the love and appreciation they receive from their primary caregiver.
  2. The Give in expectation of reciprocation this is a silent contract, a person gives up friends to give more time to the partner, silently expecting the other partner to do so. Pays dinner bills expecting you would do so in return. Gives you gifts so that he receives them too.
  3. Buying love and loyalty by giving gifts or using money , silently binding people in contracts of obligation which they have never agreed to. Ihearts-and-money-1113tm-bkgd-306.jpg will pay for the house bills you take care of my physical needs a silent contract that is seen between couples where one is earning and the other is taking care of the house. Money can also be used to silently ensure the partner is silent to any discomfort /emotional/mental because using money they can shop and take care of their needs.
  4. Not creating boundaries in a relationship so that the other partner also does not have any boundaries.

The birth of a chid is a privilege a gift that the parents need to unwrap by nurturing and raising the child in partnership , to help the expansion of the child and allow it to connect with their own talents and gifts. Instead most of the parents use children as means of achievement in the world. The trophy that they can project when they have to prove their worth.Not realising that when these children grow up they will repeat the same mistakes in relationships creating conditional love and manipulative connections. The subconscious contracts that we create with ourself and our parents become the basis of our intimate relationships. If you were yourself unhappy being in such a conditional parental setup do you think it can work in a love relationship where you have much more flexibility to step out?

Love has been misunderstood greatly in the world , it has been associated with transactions. Less than 5% people are fortunate to experience parenting by parents who were unconditionally giving. There is no doubt why most of the relationships issues happen over these subconscious contracts.

Conscious relationship contracts are still better, when you directly sit and decide on what are the expectations in a relationship and agree mutually on it. This way you clear out any one sided underlying expectations.

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Business transactions are such a tedious process because both the parties have to clearly lay down the terms and conditions. If any one of the T&Cs are not acknowledged the party can file a lawsuit. In love relationships we are constantly creating subconscious terms and conditions without even asking the partner to buy in and we feel betrayed and let down in a relationship. Is this even justified? Can this ever guarantee happiness and a lasting relationship?

This can be undone by stopping ourselves from repeating the same patterns and Inner Child Healing is one of the best tools to help you heal. 

Life is about BEING FREE from these subconscious contracts which do not serve your highest good. Love because you feel you are in love not because it will beget love. Be aware of your tendencies to manipulate people in order to meet your needs.

Love because it makes you feel amazing, do things that express your passion not because everyone is doing it. Create Relationships that challenge you, make you vulnerable, make you explore your own gifts, push you to your limits of love.

Not because you can manipulate them to get love. It won’t be fulfilling !

Creating Healthy Boundaries In Relationships

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Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others.  – Brené Brown

 

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This is going to be interesting 🙂 possibly the people pleasers might feel a bit offended but the reason why I am writing this blog is help all of you connect with your personal truth. Boundaries sound like a resistance in relationships but as a relationship consultant and energy healer I have learned how important it is to define our boundaries for personal happiness and growth.

Boundaries differentiate you as a person from others because of your uniqueness as an individual. Your individuality is your personal truth , your identity which defines your like, dislikes , preferences and create a sense of self. So today Sargam is different from ABC not only because of the way she looks but also because of her individuality…same applies to you.

However as soon as you get in a relationship specially love relationships you try to fit in to the expectations of your self. Expectations of your family, society, friends and the list is quite long……You do this to feel valued , to be loved, to be accepted and you easily cross your own physical, emotional, mental and spiritual boundaries in order to be accepted as a good wife, daughter in law, mother….

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So for example 1st day of the marriage  and you are expected to dress a certain way and sit among relatives when you are dying to catch some sleep. You compromise on your emotional boundaries and give in to the expectations….then the next some more….a week later some more compromises and then after 10 years of marriage you realise that you are UNHAPPY some of us are  Totally burned out  and just want to give up pretending any more and they do but then there are some who accept this way of life and continue to pretend all is good.

I get to talk to both kind of people the one who have given up on a relationship because it was too much of pain and hurt and violation of personal boundaries and also those who continue in the sad marriage and need to reconnect with their personal boundaries to find happiness, self love in life.

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Most of the relationship problem happen because we are not conditioned to speak about our personal boundaries , our likes , dislikes , emotional needs, physical desires, aspirations…. instead we want people to either guess them for us or we expect that they will also sacrifice their likes , dislikes, emotional needs , physical desires for us… you must have heard the C word COMPROMISE in relationships.  This is what some of your elders would have told you time and again just give yourself for love, marriage , your partner …. but trust me it does not work for long. This is one of the major reasons of a physical condition arthritis in men and women , the suppressed emotions locks up their joints. With pent up solar plexus and small heart chakra (the major energy centres in human anatomy) , diabetes, blood pressure, heart disease become the expression of the pain and suffering you have accumulated by being numb to your own emotions.

Relationships should never survive on pulling people out of their personal boundaries

You do not have good personal boundaries if :

  1. You are unable to say NO
  2. You feel Guilty after doing something
  3. When you feel you are acting against your integrity
  4. You are unable to communicate how you feel
  5. You are unable to check people if they violate your personal boundaries
  6. Emotionally you feel unhappy

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If you have been constantly engaging in the above behaviour you have personally violated your own personal boundaries. This is a sign of lack of self love and though I have been blowing the horn of self love in all my workshops it is very important to understand it.

YOU CANNOT GIVE OTHERS WHAT YOU DO NOT HAVE

So if feel you can love others when you are constantly out of alignment with your joy, happiness, purpose in life .. you are telling a lie to yourself. If you think you can love people when you do not love your self ….. you can never be in a healthy , happy , nurturing relationship. You cannot pour from an empty cup my friend

Love is about filling your cup and then overflowing to fill others.I know it sounds harsh but this is the TRUTH.

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To be able to enjoy your life, to be able to live an extraordinary intense life.. you need to connect with your internal GPS you have to connect with your emotions and feelings. You have to be aligned with your personal truth. Only you can know your boundaries as no one else can feel on your behalf.  No one can also teach you about creating personal boundaries.

Knowing others is intelligence, knowing yourself is true wisdom

How Do I Create My Personal Boundaries?

  1. It is a simple exercise but you will have to practise it every day to be able to discover your personal boundaries. Create a journal about things you really love and  things that upset you try to derive your boundaries based on it.
  2. Sit comfortably and as you reflect on your day identify the situations where you did not feel happy. Then ask yourself what was upsetting about the situation , write it down and then ask yourself what is the boundary that was violated? make a note of it. So for example somebody in office made a lewd remark and it was uncomfortable but others just laughed and moved on with their work. Just understand why were you hurt with this situation and what can you do to feel better. May be you feel you can tell the person it was not comfortable or may be just not participate in such gatherings. It is upto you.
  3. Practise honouring your feeling and emotions and communicate them with love and kindness
  4. Be conscious about how you feel in different situations to understand your own needs and desires
  5. Make Self love a conscious choice you can read my blog on Self Love
  6. Practise being Authentic, do not fake your emotions and feeling once you get in this trap of faking there is no escape

Boundaries are created to create more loving and meaningful relationships do not use them to resist people and situation because resistance is an out of alignment behaviour.

Also remember your boundaries will evolve with time so be flexible based on your relationships and your own self ascension. When you will become more and more in tune and aware of your boundaries you will start honouring the boundaries of others because you will understand how valuable it is to maintain healthy boundaries. So you may start  out by feeling separate in the beginning but gradually you will understand that the ego evolves but discovering self happiness, self joy and self love and then it becomes appreciative as it understands everything is actually an expression of the source and hence is able to appreciate the oneness aspect.

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So as a mother my boundaries have expanded to include my child’s happiness but this is in alignment with my happiness. This is a mutual win win in any relationship. Allowing children to define their boundaries is one of the most empowering gift you can give them. So stop invalidating their fears, their insecurities instead hear them out and tell them you understand.

Samaira evaluating my notes on today’s blog 🙂

Love and Light

Sargam

 

The Reality of Relationships

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This is a profound statement and if you deconstruct and reflect on this simple line you can get answers to so many unanswered questions. Most of the times we get so caught up with our own reality that we go numb to the parallel realities being created all around us.

You must have heard about the parallel reality/worlds/dimension….. sounds really interesting and probably most of us think about movies like Interstellar and Matrix when we think about these statements.

So here I am writing this piece of blog with my reality which is full of purpose and excitement like that of a thinker and writer you know the likes of Wayne Dyer / Eckhart Tolle … as I feel I am going through a satori moment and there in another room I have a parallel reality going on my husband busy on his laptop working on an office assignment probably thinking he has one of the most important works to deliver tonight and this is not the only reality ..there is one more reality shaping up alongside ours a two year old obsessed with her pen and notebook drawing interesting lines and shapes and completely unaware of any other reality except hers. So one moment and 3 parallel realities this is at a micro level happening in one family , imagine this is reflected at the macrocosm …. so it can be extrapolated to the reality of a Locality, City, Country , World, Planetary Logoi, Solar Logoi , Universe and Multiverses….. I am sure we cannot even imagine how many realities are being created every iota of a second.

Okay too much to imagine  🙂 so let us just come back and simplify

Just reflect on your relationship for now , the single most important relationship you have today let us deep dive and understand how a single relationship can sometime create a battle of realities leading to emotional distance, heartaches, infidelity, breaking of trust….and there is a long list…

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As a relationship consultant for almost half a decade now and as a wife and mother I have actually lived multiple realities with every story / situation I have been exposed to. So when a wife wants a healing for a cheating husband or a husband complains about a wife who is constantly nagging and is unbearable each of the individual is only thinking and living their own perceptual reality without even trying to attune to the other partner’s perceptual reality. In fact when a couple is going through a divorce/extramarital /separation /argument/ cold war each  partner is just living in an ego centric bubble without being attuned to each other’s reality and if there is a child you can imagine her/his reality is not even into consideration .. it is difficult to explain but this is what is happening in most of the relationships.

The problem is the inability to attune one self to other realities, the indifference, the numbness to other people’s emotions and feelings. Over the period of time it leads to emotional isolation, pain and here most of the relationships go through a painful death. Some people walk away / separate /divorce while others who decide to stay just create walls around themselves to stay away from any hurt and pain or get into a convenient set up (extramarital /emotional affairs) . Which over the period of time are just coping strategies because changing partners/ affairs/separation/ emotional isolation all of these are only reinforcing  Your Physical Reality is a ‘Reflection’ of Your Inner Reality.

If you are going through such an experience in your life or have gone through it , you really need help and support to pop your bubble of perceptual reality so that you can be aware of those around you, their emotions and their needs.  You need to accept people and their reality no matter how painful it may seem. Do not resist people because you cannot deal with negative emotions if you have this tendency probably you do the same to yourself. When I am working with relationship issues , I have observed that people have subconscious inner child issues , the adult relationship is rarely accepting their own childhood issues as at that time no one could see what you were going through and over a period of time you became blind to other people’s issues and numb to their feelings. You created your own bubble of what you want, how you want and when you want completely unaware of the needs of others.

Yesterday my daughter was in the park she is an animal lover and has a friend kitty a white cat in the society, as soon she saw her she rushed to pick her up. The cat was injured slightly on her leg but Samaira could not see it as she was so excited to play with her. She went to pick the cat by her neck and we had to stop her ,she became very upset , cried and howled. She is a two year old and does not have the understanding of the pain the cat was going through, she could not perceive that holding the cat by the neck could hurt the cat, the cat could also bite in defence and so on… imagine if she did handle the cat this way and accidentally the cat died she would not even understand what went wrong. She was just loving the way she knows.

This is a real life example , most of the couples in relationship actually go through a similar experience being completely unaware of how their action/ words and emotions could affect the other person. As they are only focussed on their egocentric reality. Most of the so called adults are still struggling with their inner child issues , where they adapted to parents who could not feel the emotions of their children.

Now when we deal with the inner children of adults who are struggling in a relationship one can observe two types of behaviours:

Type 1: People who are just so much focussed on their needs and reality that they are numb to the emotional needs and realities of others 

Type 2: People who are overtly aware of other people needs that while being attuned to each and every relationship around them they have lost touch with their own emotional needs or their own reality

Both of these are extreme ends neither of which can create healthy relationships and sometimes you find Type 1 moving to Type 2 based on their needs in a relationship. These behaviours are actually childhood conditioning and has nothing to do with their so called adult self. How these behaviours are formed in childhood?

There is a child who is naughty/ shouts/shows tantrums and the parents keep saying you are a BAD BOY, you do not behave well see your brother he is so well behaved and is such a GOOD BOY . The ‘Good Boy’ gets all the love and affection and is so conditioned for love he tries his best to please his parents by becoming so attuned to the parent’s need that forgets all about his own emotional needs. He also masks his shadow behaviour (jealousy/anger) to ensure he is loved.

On the other hand The BAD boy feels he is not understood and is compared. No one understands him and so decides to stay the Bad Boy and over a period of time goes numb to the emotional needs of their parents.

This Bad Boy can also try to fit in the Good Boy space and manipulate his behaviour so that he is loved and accepted.

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The conventional parenting style is such that most of us either fall in GOOD or BAD category and when you grow up you see the world with those limited perceptions and create your beliefs around yourself and others based on your childhood experiences. These beliefs become the foundation of your relationships in the world.

So just look around do you see these behaviours in your Relationships?? If the answer is YES!!

Then again introspect and remember your ‘Relationship with Others is a Reflection of Your Relationship with Self’ So what is your relationship with the significant others, what are you reflecting. If the other person is merely a reflection of your unhealed aspect then no matter how much you wish the reflection to change you will fail.

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What to do if you think you are going through the same matrix in your relationship. If there is hurt, pain, betrayal and you feel unwanted and unloved?

  1. Become Aware, only if you are aware about yourself , you can be aware about others
  2. Understand your Emotional needs and your own blocks in meeting those needs. Inner Child Healing is a fantastic technique for same.
  3. Try to attune to other people’s reality feel what it is to be in their situation without judgement
  4. Understand that nothing happening around you or to you is personal , people act and behave based on their own reality and limited perceptions
  5. Be expressive of your emotional needs and give what you want in love. Be LOVE to Attract LOVE
  6. Be intense in expressing love, appreciate, hug, give gifts, help your loved ones. Learn the 5 Love Languages
  7. Being there mentally, emotionally and physically with your partner and spending time together is very very important. Plan a vacation, a dinner, play games, laugh together.
  8. Develop trust and healthy boundaries , be aware of what can hurt either of you and create those boundaries this will gradually develop more trust in the relationship
  9. Do not try to quick fix things in life take your time to express your feelings of hurt and give space to people to reflect and resolve any issues
  10. Be vulnerable , one cannot love with armours , you have to be vulnerable and give in to love

You can connect for a one on one Inner Child Healing Session on http://www.sargammishra.com

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