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Desire THE Way To Enlightenment in 201X

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Free from desire, you realize the mystery.
Caught in desire, you see only the manifestations.
―Lao Tzu (Taoism)

Desire has been an interesting topic among spiritual enthusiast. As stated in the quote above most of the school of thoughts teach us to be free of all our desires to attain moksha. I have always been wondering why try so hard to not desire when it is easy to experience and let go. Let us try to understand what is Desire? The deeply ingrained tendencies of attachments and desire are often referred to by the English translation “earthly desires.” However, since they also include hatred, arrogance, distrust and fear, the translation “deluded impulses” may in some cases be more appropriate.

But can such desires and attachments really be eliminated? Attachments are, after all, natural human feelings, and desires are a vital and necessary aspect of life. The desire, for example, to protect oneself and one’s loved ones has been the inspiration for a wide range of advances–from the creation of supportive social groupings to the development of housing and heating. Likewise, the desire to understand humanity’s place in the cosmos has driven the development of philosophy, literature and religious thought. Desires are integral to who we are and who we seek to become.

In this sense, the elimination of all desire is neither possible nor, in fact, desirable. Were we to completely rid ourselves of desire, we would end up undermining our individual and collective will to live. Many of the spiritual gurus and holy texts emphasize on being completely free of desire to attain enlightenment , but if we were to think even the desire to not desire is also a desire 🙂

Desire is also a means of creation so if we were to understand, for e.g. when we give birth to a desire then we are introducing new possibilities of creation in the universe. The suffering is not from the desires but from the fact whether we will be able to fulfill the desires. When we start seeing our self incapable and non deserving of achieving our desires we suffer.

In other words, desire is not the cause of suffering; it is the opposite of suffering. Desire is what feels good. The truth is, desire is good. Desire is what keeps us going in life. It’s not getting stuff that makes us happy, it’s wanting stuff, hoping for stuff, dreaming of stuff – stuff like love, success, adventure, or meaning. Desire itself is the payoff!

Sure, sometimes we’re frustrated. Sometimes we get what we want, only to find out that it’s not as great as we thought. But to try to eliminate the central feature of a good human life just because of these stumbling blocks is to throw the baby out with the bathwater. These stumbling blocks are a necessary cost of leading a good human life.

I had this interesting conversation with a friend who just shared a perspective on desire, the happiness associated with the fulfillment of desire is temporary it goes away once a desire is fulfilled but what is even more long lasting is the happiness of having one less desire from the laundry list of desires we have…when we evolve spiritually the desires also under go transformation , so they are no longer deluded impulses but they become more service oriented, they are more towards larger good and oneness.Desires and attachments are then seen as fueling the quest for enlightenment.

The whole idea is to desire from a state of being complete, there is nothing in this universe that we do not deserve, whether it is health, happiness, abundance or even moksha, nirvana all that is ever there and all that will ever be is owned by each one of us it is just our own inhibitions and lack in self that keeps us away from it.

When you know that you lack nothing, that all there is, is you and yours, desire ceases.

―Nisargadatta Maharaj

Hindus talk about Atman, or your true Self, and say that “you are that”. Buddhists talk about suchness, or tathagata, and say that the nature of mind has no self. On the face of it they are saying the exact opposite, and yet it’s also been said that they are saying the exact same thing. It takes a lot of meditation and study to know why they are saying the same thing. Every thought movement you have is you. It is Buddha mind. When taught to meditate, you are taught to not push away thoughts – if you have a desire, don’t stop it – don’t push it away – just notice it. Anything that we resist is persists so whether it is our thoughts while meditation or our desires , if we will resist it they will occur again and again. You start by dis-identifying with it. By noticing it, it is no longer you. But later your awareness becomes more encompassing and it makes just as much sense to say that everything that occurs is you.

So once you understand that whatever you desire is there for you ; life is all about what is worth the desire 🙂 . You just need to be mindful in keeping your desires out to the universe as they will be fulfilled …. ‘The Secret’ ‘Law of Attraction’ ‘Synchronicity’ all are tools . You are a luminous light being and a master manifestor when you open your heart to your highest good there is nothing that will not show up in your reality.

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“When you really desire something, All the Universe conspires to achieve it for YOU” – Paulo Coelho 

So if you are skeptical about the Paulo Coelho Quote read the abridged version, the secret lies in being in alignment with your soul /higher self/ buddha nature.

*The views expressed are totally an individual’s perspective with due respect to all gurus and religions.

  The Third most influential Teacher in the world Dr Wayne Dyer in Wishes Fulfilled

credits:http://www.sgi.org/buddhism/buddhist-concepts/desires.html

http://xsplat.wordpress.com/2013/07/21/why-the-buddha-was-wrong-desire-is-not-the-origin-of-suffering/

There is No Secret Ingredient :) – Self Love

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Sargam Self Love

The easiest way to practice spirituality in every day life is to love yourself. SELF LOVE is the new Prayer, a new Mantra , a new Meditation ”

When I was  in my 2nd grade that is the time I remember I used to have so much fun looking myself in the mirror I could just be standing and looking my self for hours, making different hair styles, looking at my smile and making lots of faces 🙂 I also loved crying in front of the mirror and would smile seeing how I looked so beautiful even when I cried 😉

I was my own personal favorite 🙂 and always treated myself special but somehow it was hard for my friends to understand this act of self love,  and they thought I was not humble. Gradually I learned that it was not good to tell people if you were good at anything upright as it was considered as being proud or boastful. I saw my parents rarely speaking about our accomplishments in front of us as they feared we would be flying on clouds of pride. Appreciation was rare and if some family/ friends complimented we would deflect the appreciation or shy away.

As I grew up I lost touch with the “self love” aspect and gradually it manifested as a self negating internal conversation of “I am not as good as xyz, her hair was better than mine, her grades are better, she sings better than me”. This constant negative self talk resulted in weight gain, dull complexion and poor self image. I started meeting people who reassured I am not so good and need to really work on my self physically and emotionally.

Even in my relationship I had tough time proving my worth 😦  but with time gradually I realized it was nothing to do with others but it was a reflection of my own thoughts and my own poor self image. In life we are all faced with tough situations testing times and if you instead of feeling victim of the external situations, you are able to look within and introspect you will understand how these people and situations are only a reflection . Thanks to my calling of Pranic Healing that helped me restore my faith in me 🙂 it made me believe I AM SPECIAL !!

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From Buddha to the Hollywood actor Johny Depp has spoken about how important it is to love your self. A person who cannot love himself or inflicts himself/herself of pain is responsible for inflicting pain to others. If you love yourself you will understand and appreciate the individuality of others ; you will be able to respect and appreciate others with an open heart.

We live our life thinking our selves to be average and keep looking for some secret ingredient to make us special without realizing that the secret ingredient was always with us 🙂

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Self Love helps us connect with our own self and trust me when I write this I write out of experience , the first time I stood in front of the mirror dropping all judgement about me and looked into my eyes there was so much I wanted to say to my self. There was so much love , so much acceptance I had deprived myself of. I had feared been alone by myself and I was just craving for someone else to love me, approve me, compliment me. After a couple of minutes there was this knowing that I was not just what I could see in the mirror I was so much more and it was a big revelation. I just silently promised I will again bring back that child in me. I am Special and I did not need an assurance or approval for thinking this.

I know most of us have been in situations where we do not have time for ourselves, we are too busy in caring and loving others waiting for them to love us but if we continue this for a long time we will become emotionally bankrupt. Self Love is the way to maintain your bank balance of love.

Some quick questions to check your Self Love Quotient

1. Can you take up compliments with gratitude without deflecting them? Yes

2. Do you feel people who speak about their accomplishments are boasting? No

3.Can you spend time with yourself alone? Yes

4.Is your conversation with self something negative (comparative/self hating/fault finding)?? No

5.Can you see your self in the mirror and smile n feel happy or you feel sad? Yes

 

If your answers are opposite to what are written then you need to work on your Self Love quotient 🙂

Tips to Cultivate Self Love

1. Pay Gratitude (maintain a gratitude journal for the little things you like about yourself)

2. Smile whenever you see the mirror n give a mental compliment

3.Go out alone and treat yourself

4.Pursue a passion

5. Develop a positive self talk habit

In the world where we teach humility and encourage to keep our happiness on least priority ; Self Love is the only savior – Love Sargam

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The Transformation Within – When I could no longer walk GOD gave me wings to fly

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I have been writing a lot on Relationships lately and I see a certain level of comfort when healing relationship issues during my healing sessions . Many a times healers and intuitive choose to experience the pain and suffering to set their own examples because when you have actually been in the position of the other person you can give a sound advise as it comes from within.

I know my life journey has been really interesting and the life lessons that I wanted to learn was “love” for my own self and what I expected from others so I ended up in situations where people mirrored what I felt about myself and about love. A single long term relationship brought in a plethora of life experiences good bad ugly all of it and still continues to help in my expansion. I ventured into areas where i could have never dared to 🙂 I have also learned that people never change and when they bring immense pain in life it is better to leave rather than expecting miracles. Sometimes leaving may not feel a great choice and may be very painful but with time gradually things will be laid out in a way where exiting the relationship will be the only choice.

 

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When I could no longer walk God gave me wings to fly

With passing time I am getting more and more comfortable with what life has offered me as my transformation journey could not have been possible unless I went through the pain and suffering I did. Today there is nothing to hide or cover up as I feel people have just been postmen in delivering the experiences that I was suppose to have. I was lifted up when I was really battered up and put back on track of spiritual path.

I had people from various school of thoughts coming into my life to deliver wonderful messages , I was amazed as they were from quite a varied age group and backgrounds and it helped me understand the deeper meaning of myself and my life purpose. A special gratitude for all of them.

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I was guided into a conversation lately as I am going through spirals of experiences myself for a prolonged time. Even people on spiritual path have their high n lows the only difference is that they no longer get sucked into the situation.

Happiness is what is our natural state of being but most of us are in pursuit of that happiness here ,there everywhere but one of my spiritual guru beautifully summed up the success of being in the third dimension or being incarnated in physical form as below:

1. Taking up a human form
2. Knowing your life purpose
3. Connecting with higher beings or evolved people and ultimately Source

Rest all is a paraphernalia to keep this journey interesting , our job , family and social interactions etc are all there to keep us engaged but yes we have to get involved and give our best and earn our karma points but finally you have to return to Source (God) sooner or later 🙂

So what you see today is truly inner alchemy, It is wonderful to get messages from friends, acquaintances and from people across globe who read and appreciate these blogs and follow me on social sites.

Pain is expansion, it helps us to evolve rapidly so every time we are in pain it is a moment of self evaluation and opportunity for improvement. We are all here to realize our own Buddha nature, the divine within and be love…”It is a collective journey of individual expansion” I am helping you and you are helping me whether it is through love or pain or arrogance 🙂

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Gratitude Infinite – Sargam