Suicide ..Not An Escape From Life

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Sargam Mishra Suicide Article.pngClose to 800 000 people die due to suicide every year, which is one person every 40 seconds. Many more attempt suicide. Suicide occurs throughout the lifespan and is the second leading cause of death among 15-29 year olds globally.

Suicide is a global phenomenon; in fact, 78% of suicides occurred in low- and middle-income countries in 2015. Suicide accounted for 1.4% of all deaths worldwide, making it the 17th leading cause of death in 2015. There are indications that for each adult who died of suicide there may have been more than 20 others attempting suicide.

(Source:http://www.who.int/mental_health/prevention/suicide/suicideprevent/en/)

If you have experienced the pain of losing a loved one who committed suicide you can understand why it is so important to talk about it and spread awareness and discourage children and young adults to even consider this as an option in life.

The present wave of children that are incarnating are highly sensitive and emotional by nature. When born in a family or environment which does not seem conducive or in alignment with their expectation leads to disgust , resentment and depression.

I was asked to connect with an 18 year old boy from Maharashtra in July he had several issues with parents a very soft personality. I was asked to have a conversation with Mridul by a close family member , The background given was that he is in depression and was not interested in going to college as his self esteem was very low as he was not able to speak english. His father is an officer , alcoholic but was rarely around due to his transferable work. Mother a house wife but extremely dissatisfied in married life and quite superstitious and lots of fights between the son and mother.

I scheduled a video call with Mridul so that he could open up about his issues. As we saw each other on Video there he was smiling in front of me , he was expecting a very senior lady but seeing me smile he gave a huge smile in return ,I complimented Mridul for his smile and we burst into a laugh he was a bit hesitant and said  ‘Didi Mujhe Bohot Gussa Aata hai’ (I Get Very Angry) and then I end up resenting the outcome of my anger… and we continued with our session I found him hesitant to divulge about his life initially but gradually it was a good session.

After we concluded the session I was reviewing our talk and was reflecting , children nowadays have a lot to deal with at an early age. With parents not being available, rise in divorce rates, issues with self image and confidence, fear of rejection, handling expectations and lots of competition. Children nowadays do not have the emotional cushion, when they are hit by harsh realities they do not have the strength to cope and their life is scattered.

I remembered a talk I attended in 2015 where Sadhguru was emphasising how the youth will need to be brought up consciously because they have access to all kind of information today , they also have access to means (money and resources) they can either make themselves up or will fall prey to drugs, pornography, addiction and depression causing nuisance in family and society and once they realise their mistakes can also commit suicide for lack of sense of self worth and purpose.

After the session we could only connect on watsapp , in September when I messaged him I got to know his father was ill and he was in hospital, last message I received in October on Dushera and he replied with a smiley. I left for my vacation and had not heard from him in a month… Yesterday morning I got a message that Mridul committed suicide. I was really struck and was resenting again and again I should have called him up….the only question haunted me WHY… WHY YOU DID THIS??

Your Life is THE MOST IMPORTANT PIECE OF LIFE , the most amazing phenomena happening now! No person , no situation, no event is worthy enough of ending this life. When you allow life to flow through you , you are playing an important part in the web of the COSMOS.

THIS BLOG IS DEDICATED TO ALL THOSE PRECIOUS SOULS
WHO HAVE ALREADY CHOSEN TO END THEIR OWN LIVES AND TO 
THOSE WHO ARE STILL WITH US BUT STRUGGLING WITH DARK AND DEPRESSIVE THOUGHTS AND CONTEMPLATING SUICIDE.

MAY THEY ALL FIND A REASON TO LIVE.

Suicide is actually the greatest living crimes one can commit. 

Here is why:

Your Body Is Sacred , The body is the only means through which the spirit or the soul finds expression in the material world. It is our responsibility to take care of this body given to us by our parents and ensure we use it to the fullest potential. When we commit suicide we are only ending the body but the spirit lives and has to wait in the astral world for the time you were meant to live. This is a painful process because without the body , the soul cannot experience time and this wait seems to be like several 100 years. As the carnal desires of the soul were still not fulfilled and its existence was ended abruptly the soul longs to experience them but fails miserably. This is similar to living in hell , the soul goes through immense remorse and wait in the astral plane.

Although it seems an end of suffering , it actually is a beginning of far more greater misery and remorse. Ignorance is not a bliss , when we see such events in life our duty for becoming responsible and conscious parents increases manifold.

Unless we lay a strong foundation of character building and virtues for our children by practicing and living the teachings ourselves it will be very difficult to expect them to follow. A better world can only be created by our actions, words and thoughts.

 

This is my message to everyone out there who are thinking of committing suicide rethink about the potential of life which is reverberating within you. You are VALUABLE!!

Love Sargam!

Reference article “Suicide Is Not Death,” William Q. Judge (a close colleague of H.P. Blavatsky and co-founder with her of the Theosophical Society) expressed the matter like this:

 

“The fate of the suicide is horrible in general. He has cut himself off from his body by using mechanical means that affect the body, but cannot touch the real man. He then is projected into the astral world, for he has to live somewhere. There the remorseless law, which acts really for his good, compels him to wait until he can properly die. Naturally he must wait, half dead, the months or years which, in the order of nature, would have rolled over him before body and soul and spirit could rightly separate. He becomes a shade; he lives in purgatory, so to say, called by the Theosophist the “place of desire and passion,” or “Kama-Loka.” He exists in the astral realm entirely, eaten up by his own thoughts. Continually repeating in vivid thoughts the act by which he tried to stop his life’s pilgrimage, he at the same time sees the people and the place he left, but is not able to communicate with any one …”

 

 

2 responses »

  1. Sargam, I really liked this post on suicide. I appreciate the multi-spiritual and global perspective! I’m wondering how you feel about euthanasia. I’ve volunteered in nursing homes for years and when I see elderly suffering persons who are alive because advancements in medicine can treat them, whereas they would have died naturally years ago, I wonder. I would not wish to lie in pain, or be alive but in an incoherent state just existing bc some medication keeps me breathing and my organs working.

    I believe thoughts of suicide are common and not just among the young. And I’ve personally known those who’ve attempted and succeeded who are very close to me. And just this year a precious girl we loved and coached from long ago soccer days, overdosed and died after years of battling addiction. I’ve dealt with the pain of those left behind.

    I don’t know if suicide, euthanasia and drug overdose can be classed in similar categories; but these thoughts have come up from reading your thoughtful post and I wonder how you think about these others.

    I am very sorry to hear about the young man you were connecting with. His family must be suffering greatly. I’ve heard, tho I don’t know if it’s true, that every suicide deeply affects at least five people throughout their lives.

    • Namaste Vivian!

      Deeply Grateful for reading my post. Actually as you put these perspectives I have been thinking on these for a while so apologies for replying late. I feel and this is solely my view that Suicide and Euthanasia both are about leaving the physical form voluntarily. But there is a difference.
      When our physical body is no more fit to continue with the journey of the soul it feels the need to let go of the physical body. Natural death happens when the soul retrieves itself from the body in harmony with the subtle bodies. It is a higher decision.

      Euthanasia as I understand is when the body is in so much pain and suffering probably due to karmic entitlement. The Soul is unable to carry out the divine purpose and is trapped in suffering and pain and as an act of compassion one is allowed to end this suffering by letting go of the physical body.

      The purpose of life is joy not suffering, when ever we go through suffering and pain it is a sign that we are out of alignment. Addictions is a result of not being able to find a way towards that inner joy and a person moves to the extreme end of loneliness, isolation, sadness and depression. These people give up on life! People misconstrue that suicide can be an escape from life, from Addictions, Depression and Pain . The physical has an expiry date as a soul we should all try to maximise our stay in the body so that we can carry out our purpose.

      Though all three are about ending the physical form but the intention are very different, the emotional and mental states are different…..where ever we can help people to align with their inner joy and help them to live a purposeful life we should try by hearing, feeling and understanding their pain and suffering.

      Love and Light
      Sargam

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