marianne williamson | Sargam Mishra

“Love possesses not nor would it be possessed; For love is sufficient unto love. And think not you can direct the course of love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course. Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.”

– The Prophet Kahlil Gibran

Love is the most amazing human emotion and the most misinterpreted one as well . After a decade of falling in love and being married and hearing and sorting out marriages and love stories of friends my idea of love has evolved too. I feel , possessiveness, sacrificing, worrying, over protectiveness, and expecting others to change is not love. As parents taking decision on kids behalf in the name of “I care and I know your good better” is not love. Deciding a child’s career or the right partner or even friends and not allowing the child to try his own will is not love. Forcing a child to compete , whether it is by saying see your friend eats much faster than you or he gets better grades is definitely not love.

Every time someone does anything for us we label it as LOVE and when people do not fit in that label anymore we say they do not LOVE us. So What is actually LOVE? A new born child is a perfect example of what LOVE is ;it is just being the authentic self, no conditions attached. Whether he/she cries, gets cranky or has forced you into sleepless nights. The only thing you can do about it is enjoy its BEING , you still feed it, change its nappy and try to put it to sleep.And a smile on the toddler just makes your heart GROW. As parents most of our preconceived notions of love change so the equation of give and take just changes. We do not seek to change our baby but rather start appreciating the blessing the beauty it already is.

When I speak to couples going through relationship issues during counselling sessions the whole conversation revolves around ‘I thought he/she would change and adjust as per my needs, as per my family needs, she will sacrifice, compromise… Oh I married just because I thought he/she will grow up, be more responsible, work on her self’ etc etc etc….. there is a list of HOW I WISH ….. and that is the end of the relationship 🙂

During healing sessions projecting lots of love and affection towards the patient makes healing quicker. Sometimes I hear comments like no one has cared for me the way you do and I find it really sad to see that love is rare and may want to label through a relationship/friendship etc. There are no different kinds of LOVE believe me there is nothing like a child’s love, a mother’s love, god’s love , healer’s love .. 😛 LOVE is just LOVE. We just experience the depth of love being in all different roles .Love is tenderness of mother’s care, love is boyfriend’s hug, love is when a father hold her child’s hand while crossing the road, love is in mom’s food, friend’s care, silence after a kiss 🙂

If you are unable to find a deep intimate relationship in your life the reason is not because you are unable to find LOVE but your own distorted understanding of Love. Love is about the intimacy two individuals share from a space of total comfort. Where you allow the person to see through you; you do not force the person to see you the way you project but much more deep. So the elementary knowledge of love that we see in movies, in fairy tales does not work in real life real intimate love is more like a Ph D 😉

Love is not about idealizing the projected image of a partner or our own opinion and picture of them instead it is about going deep and exploring the real person he/she is and expressing appreciation and gratitude for this being. There is no person on this planet who is not worthy of love as we all are made in that essence.

As Marianne Williamson says” It is’nt the absence of people in our life that causes pain, but rather what we do with them when they’re there.”

So when we get a loving girlfriend , we forget our parents, when we get a beautiful wife we forget our friends , when we get women to have fun outside marriage we forget our wife……….so in reality we are never able to nourish any relationship and in the end we are ALONE.

You know why a search for love is endless?? As the love we seek is always there within us. So the day you have understood love, love will find you no matter where you are. Love can be beautifully understood from nature.

“And still, after all this time, the Sun has never said to the Earth, “You owe me.” Look what happens with love like that. It lights up the sky. – Rumi (Hafiz)

Great romantic relationships are based on intimacy and appreciation and by helping them access their highest . The fairy tale called “The Frog Prince” reveals a deep psychological connection between our attitudes towards people and their capacity for transformation. In the story, a princess kisses a frog and he becomes a prince. What this signifies is the miraculous power of love to create a context in which people naturally blossom into their highest potential. Neither nagging to get people to change, criticizing or fixing can do that.

You can only understand people in life if you can love them. “What is not Loved is not Understood” We hold our self separate and wait people to earn our love. But people deserve our love for what they were created to be and that is their Authentic Self. As long as we wait for them to be anything better, we will constantly be disappointed.

When we choose to approve and give pure love to people , the miracle kicks both ways – This is the key – Love Sargam

When I See YOUR FACE IS NOT A THING I WILL CHANGE BECAUSE GIRL YOU ARE AMAZING JUST THE WAY YOU ARE – Bruno Mars

“Manifesting your perfect weight is a natural result of realigning with your true self ” – Marianne Williamson

Have been waiting so long to write on this topic 🙂 but it is never too late to pen it down even now. Weight management has been a dear topic for me for last 15 years. Something I have read, researched and experimented myself. We are all born a few pounds in weight and gradually as we grow we keep on putting many more pounds; till one day we realize the few pounds are visible spilling from our clothes. This revelation for some creates an alarm these people take control of their health while for the others we get depressed and start detesting ourselves.

This blog is for the latter type , the depressed, over critical, lazy bums who start seeing food as the forbidden apple and still go ahead and sneak a slice of pizza or a chocolate and then beat themselves up. Food is highly emotional , when we are happy we feast when we are sad we binge. Food is an essential part of our lives and one of the ways to share love and affection. In Indian families mothers spend most of the the time cooking for the family pouring all their love in desserts and delicacies 🙂 So we cannot do much about food it will be around us tempting and enticing but yes some changes can be made and most of us have also adapted to healthy eating.

With my experience of 78 kgs (172 pounds) in 2007-2008 ; I realized even with a normal diet and moderate activity I just gained around 8 kgs approx with ease and did not realize till I stepped on a weighing scale. For most of us weight gain just happens and it is so gradual that we are unable to notice till we get a critical compliment from our friends/colleagues or partners 😉

I am a certified Pranic Healer and lately I attended a course on Pranic Weightloss and Body Sculpting and was so surprised to learn that excess weight is nothing but energy , it is an energy that is stuck up due to our emotions. It has not much to do with exercise or dieting. Our bodies are completely neutral the way they behave is an effect rather than a cause. What has to be consumed, stored or expelled out of the body is the work of our mind.

Let us understand this stuck up energy , we understand that our bodies metabolism and secretions of hormones are controlled through the brain activity , the brain works as a response to our thoughts. Thoughts are broadly divided into Fear based thoughts and Love based thoughts. The cause of excess fat in the body is fear which blocks out love.

I know you must be thinking most of the fat people look happier 🙂 but it is an external appearance put up these beautiful people mostly. When we do a session the emotions of under confidence,low self esteem and a habit of constant negative self talk is observed. The fear based thoughts include, shame, insecurity and low self esteem. These thoughts have energy which is contracting and dark grey and this can be felt while scanning. These are really old thought forms that get stuck and refuse to move even with best of diet plan and exercise regime. So your fat is all the anger and hate you have directed to yourself and others.

The world renowned author Louis L. Hay in her book, You Can Heal Your Life, writes that the probable causes of excess weight are: Fear; need for protection; Running away from feelings; Insecurity, self-rejection, Seeking fulfillment, and others She goes on to say, “Fat is related to Over sensitivity. Often represents fear and shows a need for protection. Fear may be a cover for hidden anger and a resistance to forgive.”

According to Louise, fat in the arms can mean “anger at being denied love.”

Fat on the belly can mean “anger at being denied nourishment” and

Fat on the hips can be “lumps of stubborn anger at the parents”. Even fat on the thighs can be “packed childhood anger, often rage at the father.

Interesting isn’t it? Most of us hold on to fat to mask our insecurities in relationships, work, life ahead etc etc. Our natural state is Love and love is detachment, love is letting go. The energy of love is moving , it is expansive. So whether it is relationships or food if we practice detachment we show love.Obsession for either a person or for any substance happens when we are ready to give and do not know how to receive. We keep holding for more because we do not feel we are getting back the desired response.

Here is a beautiful workshop conducted every year on 21 Days of Emotional Weightloss and Emotional Detox happens on http://www.sargammishra.com

Life is all about creating a love affair and if we do so with our food and bodies the response is amazing. Trust me your body needs your love and appreciation as much as other people in your life or even more. Here are few suggestions that you can include in your day to day life :

Tips for a Spiritual Weight Loss 🙂

1. Make some time to be with self – Take out 30 minutes in a day for yourself where you can just focus on your self this is your time of “self love”

2. ‘Mirror’ – Your best friend – I keep hearing my friends and family complaining that I am obsessed with mirrors; and I openly admit I am I deliberately made it a habit to smile and mentally say “I love you gorgeous” when ever I see a mirror. Next time you catch me smiling just like that you will know what I am thinking. This helps in lifting your self esteem.

3. Project love to your body – Your body is the temple of your soul no matter what it looks like it is sacred. Always remember you cannot do away with anything you are in resistance with. You will have to first accept yourself with whatever weight you are right now and then only you will be able to condition it to look its best. So mentally do an affirmation ” I approve of my self, I salute the divinity within me and I promise to maintain a healthy relationship with my body through my mind”

4.Bless anything that you put into your mouth – Food/Water any edible stuff just mentally bless it, as per Masaru Emoto’s experiment on water thoughts impact our reality so when we bless any negative energy that the food is cooked with or projected with is neutralized and is fortified with nourishment.

5. Surrender yourself to Source – When a fetus is 9 months in the womb of a mother there is a source that takes care of it , most of us are born healthy and normal. This is because nature is self correcting and providing.The minute the baby is born the parents take control and all hell breaks lose. We forget that we are all made in the image of god we are born to follow our bliss and encourage others to do the same. So whether it is your excess weight, it is your issues and problems just surrender them to source. Remember the emotional baggage will become the excess weight better to leave it to the God than carry it with you 😉

You can also visit a certified Pranic healer for Pranic Weight loss and Body Sculpting program. As I said I had my own journey with weight loss and self image here is a sneak peak :). We are not forever stuck with a fat, obese body the moment we choose to let go of our weight the transformation begins 🙂

I will send a short visualization meditation to all the readers who will comment on this blog 🙂 – Much Love Sargam

Sharing a lovely meditation for weightloss with all of you

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