Monthly Archives: December 2013

The Spunk in Spanking

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Lots of likes and encouraging comments for the below status on FB and I was kind of upset over it 😦 This is a classic example of the control based atmosphere that starts from home. With parents inducing fear in their children as compared to what they feel is respect.

ImageWe see the larger reflection of this fear based control for respect in our society and government, offices and all around us.

Respect is earned you can’t gift wrap and give it to people as presents for their unapproved behavior. Being an elder does not entitle you respect if you do not live up to it. It applies same in relationships and society.

I have number of cases where kids suffer poor self esteem and under confidence because of an abusive childhood. Spanking, Hitting, howling ,shouting ,and physical punishments leave a deep scar in children who carry them in their hearts even in their old age. If you spank with control, discipline, and good intent, your kids are more likely to have depression and engage in aggressive behavior in adulthood. An Infographic was conducted explaining what 36,000 people and 88 studies found. More details in the article The Science of Spanking

Here are some of the findings the short term and long term effects of corporal punishments for children.

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“Children are a projection of your true self” and when they mirror your own negatives you get offended. Punishment induces fear and not respect, Respect is induced with Love. You need to be there to provide directions till your child needs it they have a brain and heart , let them use it.Image

I was never spanked nor I believe in spanking let the kids bloom and shine in love – Lots of Love Sargam.Image

Alternatives to Spanking and physical punishments

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Spirituality Made Simple :)

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As  wondefully written by Kabir Das

“Moko Kahan Dhundhe Re Bande Mein To Tere Paas Mein
Na Teerath Mein, Na Moorat Mein Na Ekant Niwas Mein
Na Mandir Mein, Na Masjid Mein Na Kabe Kailas Mein
Mein To Tere Paas Mein Bande Mein To Tere Paas Mein
Na Mein Jap Mein, Na Mein Tap Mein Na Mein Barat Upaas Mein
Na Mein Kiriya Karm Mein Rehta Nahin Jog Sanyas Mein
Nahin Pran Mein Nahin Pind Mein Na Brahmand Akas Mein
Na Mein Prakuti Prawar Gufa Mein Nahin Swasan Ki Swans Mein
Khoji Hoye Turat Mil Jaoon Ik Pal Ki Talas Mein
Kahet Kabir Suno Bhai Sadho Mein To Hun Viswas Mein”Image

Translation

Where do you search me? I am with you
Not in pilgrimage, nor in Statues, Neither in solitudes
Not in temples, nor in mosques Neither in Kaba nor in Kailash
I am with you o man, I am with you
Not in prayers, nor in meditation, Neither in fasting
Not in yogic exercises, Neither in renunciation
Neither in the vital force nor in the body, Not even in the ethereal space
Neither in the womb of Nature, Not in the breath of the breath
Seek earnestly and discover, In but a moment of search
Says Kabir, Listen with care, Where your faith is, I am there.

Meditations, Mindfulness and other spiritual activites help you calm the waters of emotions so that we can understand our own selves, our own life purpose. How you meditate , what you meditate on is not relevant as long you are connected within.

Love is the only thread binding you and every person, being and object in this universe the way you treat them is how you are treating your self. The entire universe is your projection.

What is the center of the universe?????? It is YOU this is your importance 🙂

DO not belittle this universe by living a wasteful life, find your life purpose and follow it with gratitude and love -Sargam

EASY – The Mantra to Happiness and Fulfilling Relationships

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“Nothing comes Easy in Life ”  “You have to work hard to create and sustain Relationships” “Life is never Easy” Do these phrase sound familiar?? This is how we have been programmed since childhood that life is meant to be a struggle and we should be prepared always. if you have ever been in Love you will understand when we are in a Relationship that is easy time flies by beautifully where as when we are struggling it feels we have been there for ages.

This is the beauty of EASE ; a fulfilling life is when we can live a life with Ease because it is then we are actually living.If I had to describe A Fulfilling Life” in one word?  it would be “EASY” , yes anything and everything that is easy to sustain over time will always last longer. The ease with which you can start a conversation, the ease with which you can just be your natural self , the ease with which you can love people this Ease is what makes it click. 🙂

Let us answer this one questions: Why is it that we are sometimes nicer to strangers than we are to loved ones?

Shouldn’t marriage and relationships lighten our load, not add to our burden? Because if it were the latter, why in the world would any of us sign up for something like this?

Perhaps the problem is that many times we get troubled by a lot of the unnecessary parts of relationships and lose focus on the essentials. In a consistent effort of making things work , we try to go out of our ways to do things we do not like just to make things work and the result is ? It actually does not work out in the long run.

Being happy is being at EASE, you just have to find what/who makes you at Ease 🙂

Gratitude 🙂 Sargam

Be Yourself Everyone else Is Taken :)

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One of the major issues I see around is we are all trying to be ,act and behave like someone else. We are losing our own identity to get an approval from others because of fear of rejection. We wear armors to shield our true nature, we are living two lives one for the world and one within the house. 

So most of the people are super hit in external circles but super failures at home in their day to day roles as they cannot survive with that projected image 24/7. The formula for success is JUST BE YOURSELF and you will be able to attract the people who love you for who you are.

The Universe has made each one of us unique and that is the reason no two people are exactly the same in all aspects. If you understand this simple thing then just embrace yourself, shed of that armor and be you. Let your inner light shine bright.

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The Transformation Within – When I could no longer walk GOD gave me wings to fly

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I have been writing a lot on Relationships lately and I see a certain level of comfort when healing relationship issues during my healing sessions . Many a times healers and intuitive choose to experience the pain and suffering to set their own examples because when you have actually been in the position of the other person you can give a sound advise as it comes from within.

I know my life journey has been really interesting and the life lessons that I wanted to learn was “love” for my own self and what I expected from others so I ended up in situations where people mirrored what I felt about myself and about love. A single long term relationship brought in a plethora of life experiences good bad ugly all of it and still continues to help in my expansion. I ventured into areas where i could have never dared to 🙂 I have also learned that people never change and when they bring immense pain in life it is better to leave rather than expecting miracles. Sometimes leaving may not feel a great choice and may be very painful but with time gradually things will be laid out in a way where exiting the relationship will be the only choice.

 

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When I could no longer walk God gave me wings to fly

With passing time I am getting more and more comfortable with what life has offered me as my transformation journey could not have been possible unless I went through the pain and suffering I did. Today there is nothing to hide or cover up as I feel people have just been postmen in delivering the experiences that I was suppose to have. I was lifted up when I was really battered up and put back on track of spiritual path.

I had people from various school of thoughts coming into my life to deliver wonderful messages , I was amazed as they were from quite a varied age group and backgrounds and it helped me understand the deeper meaning of myself and my life purpose. A special gratitude for all of them.

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I was guided into a conversation lately as I am going through spirals of experiences myself for a prolonged time. Even people on spiritual path have their high n lows the only difference is that they no longer get sucked into the situation.

Happiness is what is our natural state of being but most of us are in pursuit of that happiness here ,there everywhere but one of my spiritual guru beautifully summed up the success of being in the third dimension or being incarnated in physical form as below:

1. Taking up a human form
2. Knowing your life purpose
3. Connecting with higher beings or evolved people and ultimately Source

Rest all is a paraphernalia to keep this journey interesting , our job , family and social interactions etc are all there to keep us engaged but yes we have to get involved and give our best and earn our karma points but finally you have to return to Source (God) sooner or later 🙂

So what you see today is truly inner alchemy, It is wonderful to get messages from friends, acquaintances and from people across globe who read and appreciate these blogs and follow me on social sites.

Pain is expansion, it helps us to evolve rapidly so every time we are in pain it is a moment of self evaluation and opportunity for improvement. We are all here to realize our own Buddha nature, the divine within and be love…”It is a collective journey of individual expansion” I am helping you and you are helping me whether it is through love or pain or arrogance 🙂

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Gratitude Infinite – Sargam

Balancing of Shiva and Shakti

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A lot of relationships are undergoing transformation with the rise in the earth vibrations some are feeling the change now whereas some have been struggling with the changes for past few years.

The issue is not a change in the partner (any relationship) or your perspective of him/her ,it is actually a change where men/women are experiencing a tug of war within, the tug of war is between the conventional projections that have been passed on through generations or simply the way society defines them.

Since years there is a deep misconception about the roles of masculine and feminine energy in the world. The belief is that masculine energy is a dominant energy, while feminine energy is a submissive energy.  This war between the masculine and the feminine has caused many women to forsake their femininity in an attempt at equality, and many men to forsake their masculine energy out of guilt or embarrassment. In Hindu Mythology this is represented by Shiv and Shakti (Lord Shiva and his consort Shakti )

SHIVA symbolises consciousness, the masculine principle.
SHAKTI symbolises the feminine principle, the activating power and energy.

Whenever a power becomes active, and wherever energy exists, Shakti is working. Other terms for these primal principles are PURUSHA and PRAKRITI; Purusha is consciousness and Prakriti is nature.

Lord Shiva is generally portrayed holding a trident, which represents the trinity of Īshwara, Purusha and Prakriti .

Īshwara is the omnipresent, eternal, formless divine principle; Purusha is the Ātmā and Prakriti is the manifestation, nature. An electric light can be used to explain their relationship. The electric current, which is the source of the light, is Īshwara; the light is Purusha, and the object that is illuminated is Prakriti.

SHAKTI (or Prakriti) means energy, power, movement,change, nature. It is the maternal principle – the provider, abundance. In the human as well as in the animal kingdom the mother offers nourishment, warmth and security. There is no greater love than the love of a mother. The mother carries and nourishes the child in her own body. When it is born she provides it with mother’s milk and raises it at the sacrifice of her own self until it becomes self-reliant.

SHIVA (or Purusha), on the other hand, is pure consciousness – the unchanging, unlimited and unswayable observer. Purusha has no desires whatsoever; these are inherent only in Prakriti. Purusha is the empty, clear screen onto which Prakriti projects her colourful film.

Shiva and Shakti are manifestations of the all-in-one divine consciousness – different sides of the same coin.In many pictures these two primal powers are each depicted as being one half of the same image; one side female and one side male. The left side is the Divine Mother, Pārvatī, the “feminine” energy, and the right side represents Shiva, the “masculine” consciousness.

Through the splitting of the primordial principle at the advent of creation the duality within our lives came into being, together with a strong force that is constantly striving to re-unite with the other part.

Only when Shiva and Shakti combine can action, movement and creation arise. Until energy is impregnated with consciousness it is ignorant, disordered, aimless and “blind”. Energy alone can produce nothing; consciousness bestows upon it content, form and direction. Conversely, consciousness without energy is dormant power, sleeping energy, and on its own is unable to be the cause of anything. Just as Prakriti without Purusha is unable to act, and vice versa, Purusha without Prakriti is also incapable of creating anything.

The balance between Purusha and Prakriti, Shiva and Shakti is where the creation is heading. On this Occasion of Shivratri let us invoke for creative masculine and feminine energies within ourselves.

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Shiva Shakti/Ardhanarishwar depiction of balanced divine femine and masculine in Hindu mythology

So do not worry if in relationships your partner speaks about compassion, love,trust,passion and intimacy and gives it priority over control and dominance. Open up your hearts and welcome the change now 🙂 trust me it is for good… for you and the world.

!!Om Mani Padme Hum!!

Lots of Love -Sargam

Let us understand what is divine masculine and divine feminine:

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Divine Masculine Qualities:

Create, protect, provide, acquire, power, self-control, responsibility, leadership, safety, curiosity, strength, spatial

Destructive Divine Masculine Qualities

Aggression, violent, conquer, take, steal, rape, harm, torture, terrorize, force, egotistical, bully, narcissistic, pillage, exploit, greed, war, lack, scarcity

Divine Feminine Qualities:

Compassion, collaboration, cooperation, nurturing, imaginative, connection, intimacy, love, creative, intuition, authenticity, vulnerable, feelings, empathy, passion, envisioning, abundance, peace

Destructive Divine Feminine Qualities

Passive-aggression, enslaved, intimidated, desperation, powerless, apathetic, surrendered

Belief Versus Knowing – Manifesting Made EASY :)

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I had a brief discussion sometime back with a dear one and yes I was just so impressed with these two words that I immediately put it on Facebook.I received  good response to that post but then there was more to the meaning of these two power words that we use very often in the spiritual world. I was able to link it to an understanding Why few people are able to manifest easily than others. And I wanted to infact was excited to  just share it with Likeminds family 🙂

Okay let us begin with a small explanation of these two words:

‘Believing’ means that you have chosen a truth, but ‘knowing’ means that you are certain about that truth.

2. ‘Believing’ always leaves room for doubt, but ‘knowing’ leads to confidence.

3. ‘Believing’ is blind trust, while ‘knowing’ is trusting with awareness.

Now you must be thinking okay SO WHAT? I already know the above 😛 keeping it simple and moving on to the crux of manifesting;

Getting past of belief system into knowing brings you closer to making your dreams come true. It works under all circumstances whether it is healing your body, healing your relationships, making your dreams come true and making your life the way you want to.

How does this work? It is all about moving your thoughts from wishing to have -> to believing you have -> to knowing you have it.

So you can make it happen by a simple response I KNOW that is it the most simple formula for manifesting anything and everything in life!!