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The Transformation Within – When I could no longer walk GOD gave me wings to fly

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I have been writing a lot on Relationships lately and I see a certain level of comfort when healing relationship issues during my healing sessions . Many a times healers and intuitive choose to experience the pain and suffering to set their own examples because when you have actually been in the position of the other person you can give a sound advise as it comes from within.

I know my life journey has been really interesting and the life lessons that I wanted to learn was “love” for my own self and what I expected from others so I ended up in situations where people mirrored what I felt about myself and about love. A single long term relationship brought in a plethora of life experiences good bad ugly all of it and still continues to help in my expansion. I ventured into areas where i could have never dared to 🙂 I have also learned that people never change and when they bring immense pain in life it is better to leave rather than expecting miracles. Sometimes leaving may not feel a great choice and may be very painful but with time gradually things will be laid out in a way where exiting the relationship will be the only choice.

 

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When I could no longer walk God gave me wings to fly

With passing time I am getting more and more comfortable with what life has offered me as my transformation journey could not have been possible unless I went through the pain and suffering I did. Today there is nothing to hide or cover up as I feel people have just been postmen in delivering the experiences that I was suppose to have. I was lifted up when I was really battered up and put back on track of spiritual path.

I had people from various school of thoughts coming into my life to deliver wonderful messages , I was amazed as they were from quite a varied age group and backgrounds and it helped me understand the deeper meaning of myself and my life purpose. A special gratitude for all of them.

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I was guided into a conversation lately as I am going through spirals of experiences myself for a prolonged time. Even people on spiritual path have their high n lows the only difference is that they no longer get sucked into the situation.

Happiness is what is our natural state of being but most of us are in pursuit of that happiness here ,there everywhere but one of my spiritual guru beautifully summed up the success of being in the third dimension or being incarnated in physical form as below:

1. Taking up a human form
2. Knowing your life purpose
3. Connecting with higher beings or evolved people and ultimately Source

Rest all is a paraphernalia to keep this journey interesting , our job , family and social interactions etc are all there to keep us engaged but yes we have to get involved and give our best and earn our karma points but finally you have to return to Source (God) sooner or later 🙂

So what you see today is truly inner alchemy, It is wonderful to get messages from friends, acquaintances and from people across globe who read and appreciate these blogs and follow me on social sites.

Pain is expansion, it helps us to evolve rapidly so every time we are in pain it is a moment of self evaluation and opportunity for improvement. We are all here to realize our own Buddha nature, the divine within and be love…”It is a collective journey of individual expansion” I am helping you and you are helping me whether it is through love or pain or arrogance 🙂

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Gratitude Infinite – Sargam

Balancing of Shiva and Shakti

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A lot of relationships are undergoing transformation with the rise in the earth vibrations some are feeling the change now whereas some have been struggling with the changes for past few years.

The issue is not a change in the partner (any relationship) or your perspective of him/her ,it is actually a change where men/women are experiencing a tug of war within, the tug of war is between the conventional projections that have been passed on through generations or simply the way society defines them.

Since years there is a deep misconception about the roles of masculine and feminine energy in the world. The belief is that masculine energy is a dominant energy, while feminine energy is a submissive energy.  This war between the masculine and the feminine has caused many women to forsake their femininity in an attempt at equality, and many men to forsake their masculine energy out of guilt or embarrassment. In Hindu Mythology this is represented by Shiv and Shakti (Lord Shiva and his consort Shakti )

SHIVA symbolises consciousness, the masculine principle.
SHAKTI symbolises the feminine principle, the activating power and energy.

Whenever a power becomes active, and wherever energy exists, Shakti is working. Other terms for these primal principles are PURUSHA and PRAKRITI; Purusha is consciousness and Prakriti is nature.

Lord Shiva is generally portrayed holding a trident, which represents the trinity of Īshwara, Purusha and Prakriti .

Īshwara is the omnipresent, eternal, formless divine principle; Purusha is the Ātmā and Prakriti is the manifestation, nature. An electric light can be used to explain their relationship. The electric current, which is the source of the light, is Īshwara; the light is Purusha, and the object that is illuminated is Prakriti.

SHAKTI (or Prakriti) means energy, power, movement,change, nature. It is the maternal principle – the provider, abundance. In the human as well as in the animal kingdom the mother offers nourishment, warmth and security. There is no greater love than the love of a mother. The mother carries and nourishes the child in her own body. When it is born she provides it with mother’s milk and raises it at the sacrifice of her own self until it becomes self-reliant.

SHIVA (or Purusha), on the other hand, is pure consciousness – the unchanging, unlimited and unswayable observer. Purusha has no desires whatsoever; these are inherent only in Prakriti. Purusha is the empty, clear screen onto which Prakriti projects her colourful film.

Shiva and Shakti are manifestations of the all-in-one divine consciousness – different sides of the same coin.In many pictures these two primal powers are each depicted as being one half of the same image; one side female and one side male. The left side is the Divine Mother, Pārvatī, the “feminine” energy, and the right side represents Shiva, the “masculine” consciousness.

Through the splitting of the primordial principle at the advent of creation the duality within our lives came into being, together with a strong force that is constantly striving to re-unite with the other part.

Only when Shiva and Shakti combine can action, movement and creation arise. Until energy is impregnated with consciousness it is ignorant, disordered, aimless and “blind”. Energy alone can produce nothing; consciousness bestows upon it content, form and direction. Conversely, consciousness without energy is dormant power, sleeping energy, and on its own is unable to be the cause of anything. Just as Prakriti without Purusha is unable to act, and vice versa, Purusha without Prakriti is also incapable of creating anything.

The balance between Purusha and Prakriti, Shiva and Shakti is where the creation is heading. On this Occasion of Shivratri let us invoke for creative masculine and feminine energies within ourselves.

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Shiva Shakti/Ardhanarishwar depiction of balanced divine femine and masculine in Hindu mythology

So do not worry if in relationships your partner speaks about compassion, love,trust,passion and intimacy and gives it priority over control and dominance. Open up your hearts and welcome the change now 🙂 trust me it is for good… for you and the world.

!!Om Mani Padme Hum!!

Lots of Love -Sargam

Let us understand what is divine masculine and divine feminine:

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Divine Masculine Qualities:

Create, protect, provide, acquire, power, self-control, responsibility, leadership, safety, curiosity, strength, spatial

Destructive Divine Masculine Qualities

Aggression, violent, conquer, take, steal, rape, harm, torture, terrorize, force, egotistical, bully, narcissistic, pillage, exploit, greed, war, lack, scarcity

Divine Feminine Qualities:

Compassion, collaboration, cooperation, nurturing, imaginative, connection, intimacy, love, creative, intuition, authenticity, vulnerable, feelings, empathy, passion, envisioning, abundance, peace

Destructive Divine Feminine Qualities

Passive-aggression, enslaved, intimidated, desperation, powerless, apathetic, surrendered

The Relationship Magnetism – Oops

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We are living Magnets and the relationships we are in currently are because of us :). Yes of course if you want to know what kind of energy you are look around and see the people you are with. Two people exist if they are a vibrational match to each other and will continue only till they are a match.

Relationships, soul mates that we meet on our journey of life at first seems to be a perfect answer as it complete the missing experiences in our lives but as we evolve our vibration changes and if either of the mate is slow in his/her expansion we see conflicts.

Often people believe finding a mate who loves them will be the answer to everything missing in their life experience. They want to find that one person who will, in essence, complete them. And almost without exception, they want that person, right here, right now!

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If you are seeking a joyful relationship, you must become joyful first. Asking for a relationship to make you joyful is a backwards approach. If you are seeking a satisfying relationship, you must become satisfied first. If you are seeking a relationship full of fun and great timing and excitement, you must become full of fun and great timing and excitement, first.

How you feel equals who you are. And who-you-are equals everything that comes to you.  

“We attract lovers from our level of energy. Take your time to raise your vibration and attract from a higher vibration. If you want to live happily ever after learn to manage your emotions and make joy the most important experience. It’s ever so much more satisfying to get into a blissful place and attract a blissful person and live blissfully hereafter than to be in a negative place and attract a negative partner and then try to get happy from that negative place.”

– Inspired from articles of Abraham Hicks and Law of Attraction

Entanglement in Relationships

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Relationships are nothing but an entanglement where each of us is trying to act as a savior for the other. We do not realize that we ourselves have so much scope of improvement first that everything is secondary. We approach as saviors and end up dominating or being dominated Aliens Vs Predators. Nobody understands that families , friendships and any other relationship is about intimacy and equality and not about domination.

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We are in a constant quest to detangle each other 🙂 when we ourselves are completely in a messed up state. Most of us expect others to treat us better, but do you think it is possible for others if we ourselves do not treat us well? Everyone today is so stressed out, they have their own quests their own anger and resentments that do you think they have time to appreciate YOU????

The situation is:

“You treat me this way (not so good) and so I have no choice other than to treat you just the same 🙂  Tit for Tat” ……I am sure you would have also done this to someone? 🙂 I have:)  This is what we call entanglement our thoughts, actions and words are so dependent on what people do to us and then we try to make them comfortable by getting into their point of views and get down to a their levels. This is called lowering our own vibrations.

Do you think this in any way makes you happy for long??? Nooooooo as it feels like a compromise so what do you do??

First stand in your own energy field and this happens only when you are completely at ease/relaxed. Raise your own vibrations by being more loving, grateful and compassionate towards yourself and others.

Try to treat others better, something that you wish for yourself try and do for others. Example compliment someone as you would love to be complimented, do it from heart . Gift people, buy flowers, give hugsss, smile…..you can add whatever you want for yourself in this list as well.

Your willingness to treat others better shows how well you treat yourself and when they treat you better improve upon that treatment. This will help you clear your entanglement and will make others realize they are worthy of better too …it is never about you versus others it is always about you Vs yourself

You are just responsible for your expansion, your happiness and your de tanglement once you have mastered it then only you can serve as an example.

Thoughts Impact Your Reality

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In our day to day life we have forgotten the fact that we are powerful creation of god capable of co creating this universe with the Source.Each one of YOU who is seeing this video is actually changing the physical reality with his/her consciousness. Your emotions are on an auto pilot mode and hence you do not understand the power of YOUR collective consciousness. This video shows the impact of thoughts and words on water molecules and gives us an insight into the power of emotions like gratitude, love, appreciation, truth on water. Our bodies are made of more than 70% water so compassion, love, gratitude is not something that you do for others but for your own well being. Anger hatred and negative words that you speak affect your own well being.

Love and Light – Sargam

Mindful Presence In Relationships -Being There

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“The Best Gift You Can Give Someone Is Your Time”

To love, is above all to be there for your loved ones mindfully. But being there is not an easy thing,If you are not there, how can you love? Being a part of someone’s life is a great privilege which has its own responsibilities. Most of the time we take it for granted because gradually with time we are assured that they will always be there. So we miss our anniversary, our son’s parent teacher meeting, our daughter’s performance at the annual day some parents don’t even remember their kid’s date of birth. Can you relate to any of this?? If yes it is time you pay attention to your relationships and all the wonderful people who are sharing their life with you.

The most precious gift you can give to the one you love is your true presence. What must we do to really be there? Those who have practiced meditation know that meditating is above all being present: to yourself, to those you love, to life.

Here is a very simple practice of mindful breathing: “Breathing–I know that I am breathing in; breathing–I know that I am breathing out.” If you do that with a little concentration, then you will be able to really be there, because in our daily life our mind and our body are rarely together. Our body might be there, but our mind is somewhere else. Maybe you are lost in regrets about the past, maybe in worries about the future, or else you are preoccupied with your plans, with anger or with jealousy. And so your mind is not really there with your body.

Between the mind and the body, there is something that can serve as a bridge. The moment you begin to practice mindful breathing, your body and your mind begin to come together with one another. It takes only 10 to 20 seconds to accomplish this miracle called oneness of body and mind. With mindful breathing, you can bring body and mind together in the present moment, and every one of us can do it, even a child.

Practice of simple words can help in understanding the true meaning of being there.

“Dear one, I am here for you.” Perhaps this evening you will try for a few minutes to practice mindful breathing in order to bring your body and mind together. You will approach the person you love and with this mindfulness, with this concentration, you will look into his or her eyes, and you will begin to utter this formula: “Dear one, I am really here for you.” You must say that with your body and with your mind at the same time, and then you will see the transformation.

Do you have enough time to love? Can you make sure that in your everyday life you have a little time to love? We do not have much time together; we are too busy. In the morning while eating breakfast, we do not look at the person we love, we do not have enough time for it. We eat very quickly while thinking about other things, and sometimes we even hold a newspaper that hides the face of the person we love. In the evening when we come home, we are too tired to be able to look at the person we love.

We must bring about a revolution in our way of living our everyday lives, because our happiness, our lives, are within ourselves.

Lots of Love  Sargam

Reference :http://www.beliefnet.com/Love-Family/Relationships/Holidays/Valentines-Day/Do-You-Have-Time-To-Love

Your Life is your STORY choose how you want to tell :)

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This is an Interesting Title I am not sure if you can guess what this is about 🙂 . I just happen to read a post,  “When you learn HOW to suffer, you suffer much less!” Most of our life incidents become a story especially the bad ones , I mean when we are really put to test. The suffering from the unpleasant experience alone is enough to create a turbulence in mind and heart but it gets worse when we marinate it. 

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Focus on life stories that make you smile , that make your heart fill with love and gratitude it will help you and others as well by attracting more happy things in life. 

 

Parenting Our Emotional Self

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Our emotional selves are like children that never ever grow up no matter how ascended(evolved) we are. We all just have to learn to parent ourselves in a way that we have never been parented. It is as simple like this..when a kid gets angry we do not condemn him instead we embrace them this is what we need to do to ourselves when we are angry/miserable.

Anger is just like a red flag that there are unresolved issues that need to be addressed with love and approval within ourselves. This emotion has to be treated by YOU just like a kid who has no one in the room except YOU to help out.

Society has conditioned us in a way that if something is going wrong we should either hide it or push ourselves harder to overcome it but this is worse to go somewhere. How hard can you try with people/situations/relationships where you do not have control? You don’t have to try hard to please them and make it work instead you have to just love and approve for all the fear that you have within.

So try to be a better parent for that emotional kid you have within ..it needs you more than anyone and no one except you can embrace it. No body in the world can love it the way you can. Here is a simple technique by Thich Naht Hahn

It’s extremely simple and can be done anytime, anywhere and in virtually any circumstance.

Seven simple steps to embrace your emotional self:

  1. Whenever you become aware of your negative thoughts and emotions, instead of ignoring them, or disapproving them, identify, acknowledge and honor them.
  2. Become very clear on what is upsetting you. Identify the exact thoughts that are creating the negative emotion. Are they self-judging, bad memories, or anxiety about future events? Aee these causing any dis-ease in the body? Is it insecurity or a fear of the unknown?
  3. Next, identify the specific emotions that arise in you as a result of these negative thoughts. What do they feel like? Is there tightening in your chest? Is your stomach being hurt or is there a throbbing sensation in your head? Try listen to your body.
  4. Once you’ve clearly identified the thought(s) and emotion(s), close your eyes and explore the imagery they subsequently create in your mind (once you’re familiar with the practice, you won’t always need to close your eyes—i.e., if you’re driving, or in public you can still do this.) Do the thoughts and emotions create colors, shapes, figures? Are they abstract or clear? The important thing is to let your thoughts and emotions create the imagery while you simply become aware of what they are.
  1. Breathe. We’re at the half way mark and I’d like to offer you sincere congratulations on completing the first half! Our natural tendency is to suppress these uncomfortable thoughts and emotions, often telling ourselves that we will deal with them later but honestly, that later never comes. Unfortunately for most of us, it never does. So even just by taking the time to become conscious of, and identify these unpleasant thoughts and emotions is a huge step! Let’s not stop there however, because here’s where the really good stuff starts to happen.
  2. This step is where everything begins to change! Once you have the mental images of what your thoughts and emotions look like (and even if there’s no image at all, this practice still works), picture yourself holding the image (or lack thereof) in the same way a mother holds a newborn baby. Picture the image of your painful thought and emotion wrapped in a warm blanket, being held with very loving care closely to your heart, your chest, as you extend it very sincere compassion from your heart center. (You can also use the imagery of wrapping the thought/emotion in a warm blanket and placing it in a baby carriage, and rocking the carriage back and forth.)
  3.  Next, mentally (or verbally) say to the image that you know it’s there and you promise to care for and hold it with compassion until it’s ready to go. Do your best to say these words from a very sincere place in your heart.

Through bringing our attention to the image of our painful thoughts and emotions, and tending to it with an open heart, we’re doing the most natural thing we can—expressing love. Instead of ostracize our uncomfortable thoughts and emotions accept and embrace them with love.

The thoughts and emotions will often subside very quickly. Sometimes, however, they aren’t ready to go so fast, and that’s fine. When we initially tell them we’d be with them as long as they need us, we were sincere in that intention. So when the thoughts and emotions bother us, we honor and hold them dearly in our heart for as long as it takes.

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